Ladies - leaving men 'jobs' to do

SailorSam

I leave myself lists. If i don't write it down while i remember it, i'll forget it.

2gorgeousgirls

martinthebandit wrote: »

I once said that to my Mrs when she came in, she replied..

'I know because the hoovers been moved'

So now I just move the hoover

My wife has a 'to do' list for herself but she wouldn't dream of writing one for me.

I occasionally write on hers though, mainly I add 'make hobnobs' to it and sometimes it works!

I would know if he did that as we have dark green carpet on stairs (madness I know) which shows up every bit of dirt - but still my hubby doesn't see when the stairs need hoovered!

Morglin

ska_lover wrote: »

Morning all,

We went to visit friends recently, and noticed that the lady of the house, writes ''to do'' lists for her husband for while she is out of the house, or on opposite shifts to him. There must have been a good 12 hours work for him, on his day off

I personally don't, but does anyone else do this?

No, I never used to - quicker to do it myself!

Lin

ska_lover

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Was it definitely all expected to be achieved in one day?!

Yep, there was another list for the next day..eeek

I think the chap in question actually completed his tasks, well done to him I say lol

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

If BoPsie left me a note like that, she will need to find a locksmith.

PlymouthMaid

Yes I do as otherwise he forgets to do any of the things which need doing. He has the memory of a goldfish with Alzheimers. Sometimes th elist is an easy daily one such as bring washing in, pick up milk etc other times is a long term list including stuff like finish the decorating etc . Like a lot of men (in particular) he admits that he just does not notice the jobs which need doing.

maman

I'm really surprised how many people have said that they write lists for their OH.


DH and I seem to manage our own time perfectly well without any 'interference' from the other. We sometimes write our own lists if we need to but I wouldn't dream of doing one for him or vice versa.


Imagine how I'd feel if I'd got up this morning to a list that said: change towels in bathrooms, put washing machine on, handwash silk dress (in case I didn't know otherwise), ironing, make lunch, prep veg for evening meal etc etc...

moomoomama27

We have a daily to do list. I'm very organised! We both work 40 hours a week, I am studying for my degree, have three children and a sick mother, so it's vital to the running of our home. The list is for everyone to follow, children too, so it's necessary to be quite explicit in what needs to be done.

Whoever is in will tick off the jobs as we do it, on days where we both work we share, or I end up doing a bit more as I finish earlier, on a Saturday I do it, and on a Sunday he does it as we work opposite to each other on these days at the moment.

Surely that just part of running a family home, so it's viral and well run?! Nothing patronising about it, it's a mutual decision.

A list typically looks like

Washing on
Hang out washing
Pay x bill
Lunches prepare for next day
Ironing
Clean bathrooms
Clean kitchen
Clean hamsters
Polish
Wash floors

Not all on same days but we all muck in ( children too)

PlymouthMaid

Maman - I would just find it funny if he left me a list as I would have been doing all those things anyway without being reminded. Also if he was capable of 'seeing' the jobs and leaving me a list then I would not have to do him lists at all in the first place.

Poppy9

Until OH retired I never left him lists and technically I don't now. I work FT and he's retired but he doesn't really notice what needs doing and he forgets to get things like milk!

When the washing piles up I ask him to put it on before leaving for work. If we need milk/bread etc. if I can't get lunch time I will send him a text to remind him because he won't remember.

He writes himself lists all the time and asks me if I have anything to add. He never completes his lists:rotfl:

I send DD texts to tell her to get out of bed!