I need some advice :-(

pleasedelete

you dont write like an adult or a parent. Your writing style is more like a teenager. How old are you?

teenageradvice

I dont make reading her diary a habit, I just want to clarify. I was stripping her bed to wash this morning when a book called 'Notes' fell out of the duvet cover. I opened at no particular point to be confronted with 'wish I was dead' so I flicked through a few pages. Ive not read the whole diary (flicking through was enough to see there is an issue).

I like to think I am a good parent and if there was something wrong then as her mother I can help her work through it.

pleasedelete

Why do you go into the bedroom of a 1 6 year old girl uninvited/without them there ? it is their space- they change their own sheets etc

teenageradvice

pleasedelete wrote: »

you dont write like an adult or a parent. Your writing style is more like a teenager. How old are you?

I am 35. my 2 daughters are 16 (in october) and 3.

teenageradvice

pleasedelete wrote: »

Why do you go into the bedroom of a 1 6 year old girl uninvited/without them there ? it is their space- they change their own sheets etc

If only. She does not help around the house, if I ask then she gets in a huff and as an example, if i ask her to wash up then its not done properly and I have to redo half of it. I do all the washing in the house, including hers. As a small family it would seem silly doing several different loads a week if she was to do her own (and expensive!)

teenageradvice

Artytarty wrote: »

Hang on a mo, stop worrying about her being nasty ABOUT you. This is about her , not what names she's been calling you.

I know this which is why I am asking advice as she is obviously unhappy.

pleasedelete

She is almost an adult. You had her when you were not much older. Maybe having a toddler has changed focus of your family from being one with an emerging adult to one that is young child led? The relationship with a 16 year old is very very different from a 3 year old. How much time do just the 2 of you spend together doing 'almost adult' things

tomtontom

teenageradvice wrote: »

I dont make reading her diary a habit, I just want to clarify. I was stripping her bed to wash this morning when a book called 'Notes' fell out of the duvet cover. I opened at no particular point to be confronted with 'wish I was dead' so I flicked through a few pages. Ive not read the whole diary (flicking through was enough to see there is an issue).

I like to think I am a good parent and if there was something wrong then as her mother I can help her work through it.

And the book has mysteriously jumped out at you twice now?

teenageradvice

pleasedelete wrote: »

She is almost an adult. You had her when you were not much older. Maybe having a toddler has changed focus of your family from being one with an emerging adult to one that is young child led? The relationship with a 16 year old is very very different from a 3 year old. How much time do just the 2 of you spend together doing 'almost adult' things

I was 19, almost 20 when she was born. i try and spend time with her as much as I can. Recently she has been studying a lot as had her mock exams over the past 2 weeks. I take her on shopping trips and we hang out at home. She tends to spend her weekends with her friends which is fine as last year I was concerned that she didnt socialise enough!

Person_one

teenageradvice wrote:

Back in December I found out my daughter had been writing nasty stuff in hr diary about me.

teenageradvice wrote: »

I dont make reading her diary a habit, I just want to clarify. I was stripping her bed to wash this morning when a book called 'Notes' fell out of the duvet cover.

Did you not recognise it from when you were reading it back in December?