I've got a date tonight, going to her place, but I'm quite nervous. Advice?

*max*

Awwww! You gotta love a nice fairytale romance like this one! Gives you butterflies, doesn't it? :smileyhea

tea_lover

*max* wrote: »

Awwww! You gotta love a nice fairytale romance like this one! Gives you butterflies, doesn't it? :smileyhea

You sure it's butterflies? Does it itch??

SailorSam

It would be interesting to hear from the other side-of-the-coin., If this 'lady' is for real wouldn't it be funny if she was also a member of Mse and reading this thread.

mystic_trev

SailorSam wrote: »

It would be interesting to hear from the other side-of-the-coin., If this 'lady' is for real wouldn't it be funny if she was also a member of Mse and reading this thread.

She's probably on the Grabbit Forum!

kingslayer

StuC75 wrote: »

Because you asked it in the least tactful way..

Your text to her ought to have been more regarding the precautionary side and risk of pregnancy.. She may have then said she's on the pill\other methods. To flat out ask about STI's is likely to offend most people..

She may have had checks with other screening to do with pill or coil methods. She may have seen someone in the past that had something, so has since checked that to ensure she's all clear..

But instead you chose the most naïve & insensitive way of asking.

Any fears you had regarding STI's should be by way of an appointment at local clinic..

Your comments about her are rather critical - but what does that say about your own actions as well..

really should have taken something yourself - although I do reckon you would have been stupid enough to have put them on the coffee table when you first walked in and started talking...

There is a huge amount of pot\kettle in this thread- you've not been the most complementary person in how you've strung her along to this..and to now ask that...

Okay, I understand this, but it isn't being critical, it's more about the fact that she may have used me and, also, she may have deliberately used no protection knowing she had an infection of some kind. I understand that I messed up, but if (hypothetically speaking) she still decided to sleep with me knowing all this, then I'm going to be angry.

ifstar

Maybe she wanted another kid and you're going to be a dad now!

kingslayer

I am confused whether she used me or not. I have no idea and it's really frustrating, because I did actually want to get to know her more, and she also said she was looking for something more serious. My head is a bit spaced out right now as I have no idea what is going on with her, or what she's thinking about me etc.

VestanPance

kingslayer wrote: »

Okay, I understand this, but it isn't being critical, it's more about the fact that she may have used me and, also, she may have deliberately used no protection knowing she had an infection of some kind. I understand that I messed up, but if (hypothetically speaking) she still decided to sleep with me knowing all this, then I'm going to be angry.

When it comes to protection you have every bit as much say in as she does. Man the f*ck up and accept responsibility for your own dumb actions.

Secondly, she used you! Get a grip. You jumped into bed with her when by all accounts you knew nothing about her. You are either stupid beyond belief with no comprehension of your own actions, or a troll. I'm thinking troll.

tomtontom

Why not drop her a text and invite her to join MSE? :beer:

kingslayer

ifstar wrote: »

Maybe she wanted another kid and you're going to be a dad now!

I really hope not! Why would she do that anyway? I don't understand why she would want another child; she has three teenage children already.