please help 16 and pregnant

thorsoak

Whether or not she is allowed to attend her school prom will depend upon the school's policy - a lot of schools around here make the attendance at the school prom a reward, for good attendance, good behaviour etc. I would have expected the school to notify her (and you) before this if there was a question about her eligibility to attend or not.

Being pregnant should not be a constraint .....whether or not the b/f is allowed to go is a completely different kettle of fish (I know that you haven't ask that question!)

thorsoak

dktreesea wrote: »

That is such a double standard.

So if the bf came from a well off family and his father had a nice house it would be okay for him to offer his home to both soon to be parents and their child, but because he's poor and doesn't have very good housing - a one bedroom places for two adults sounds like overcrowding to me - he's subjected to a whole lot of anti benefit/anti poor vitriol and cynicism?

I'm not bothered by the boy's family being poor - I'm concerned about the fact that their home has been raided for drugs!

Poppie68

dktreesea wrote: »

Why? Surely the OP's daughter would be better off in an environment where her family are kept together and she is not being subjected on a daily basis to the adverse judgments of another person who would have preferred she had aborted her child?

I would never have let a member of my family near our children if I had suspected, let alone been told directly, that they had wanted them to be terminated.

The mother has a right to be concerned for her own daughter, as opposed to you not having a right to preach to her. The BF and his father seem to want to use her as a meal ticket and you strangly think that is ok!


....And for the record you are coming over very aggresively towards others and not taking into account their rights to their own beliefs, and this thread is in real danger of turning into a pro-abortion versus anti-abortion. Leave people to their own thoughts on the subject as is their right.

xylophone

The OP and her daughter might find some advice and assistance through this charity.
http://www.pregnancyhelp.org.uk/home/

Poppie68

dktreesea wrote: »

That is such a double standard.

So if the bf came from a well off family and his father had a nice house it would be okay for him to offer his home to both soon to be parents and their child, but because he's poor and doesn't have very good housing - a one bedroom places for two adults sounds like overcrowding to me - he's subjected to a whole lot of anti benefit/anti poor vitriol and cynicism?

Well my lord are'nt you reading alot into things that are'nt actually printed or even implied...maybe you need a coffee break.

whodathunkit

xylophone wrote: »

The OP and her daughter might find some advice and assistance through this charity.
http://www.pregnancyhelp.org.uk/home/

Great, send her to a pro life clinic thinking that it's offering unbiased information - just what she needs!

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-health/10621472/Abortion-scandal-Inside-Britains-unregulated-pro-life-clinics.html

xylophone

pro life clinic

Well, I tend to think that pro life is better than pro death.....
And it would appear that the young woman has already made the decision to give birth to the child she is carrying?

whodathunkit

xylophone wrote: »

Well, I tend to think that pro life is better than pro death.....
And it would appear that the young woman has already made the decision to give birth to the child she is carrying?

So that's a reason for her to be denied unbiased opinions and to be fed misinformation is it?

Poppie68

xylophone wrote: »

Well, I tend to think that pro life is better than pro death.....
And it would appear that the young woman has already made the decision to give birth to the child she is carrying?

Im sorry xylophone i have removed my thanks on that post as i was'nt aware they were an impartial service...everyone has a right to make their own choice and not be bullied into the wants, needs and beliefs of others..

tomtontom

xylophone wrote: »

Well, I tend to think that pro life is better than pro death.....
And it would appear that the young woman has already made the decision to give birth to the child she is carrying?

16 year olds have a habit of changing their mind rather frequently - in the OP's position I would still be looking for impartial advice for their daughter.