Is it right that my BF wont pay for anything?

burnoutbabe

You should ask him for less money for bills (work out what your monthly amoiunts for council tax/elec etc is) and he pays 50%

then all other joint costs are stuck on one credit card (you both have cards) and then shared 50/50.

We do this (as its my flat and he doesn't pay towards the mortgage) and it roughly works out at £120 for his share of the bills and £400 per month as his share of food/going out/holidays.

So £500per month probably does cover everything?

19lottie82

TESTER123 wrote: »

well food bill budget (that's everything including pet food, snacks, drinks, household cleaning supplies) is £600 a month for the two of us .

that's still absolutely bonkers, IMO

how much does the dog cost to feed?

I do all of the above (minus the dog), for about £250 a month, and we eat meat most nights, steak usually once a week.

thorsoak

Let's not turn this into a "how low can you go" thread - how much the OP and partner spend on food is not the question here - the question is whether or not her partner is being fair in what he pays her.

Please lets keep the judging of the budget out of this thread.

SavingPennies_2

Morglin wrote: »

£500 PM to cover all that, plus food and dog costs?.......:eek:

I assume you don't do the bills in your house lol

Lin

OP said it doesnt cover mortage as it's her house and wants to keep it seperate. £500 should easily cover half of the bills and food for two people.

Morglin

19lottie82 wrote: »

In my place

dual fuel 80
council tax and water 120
l'line / bband / tv 48
tv license 12
contents ins 10
food / groceries for 2 250

total £520

£250 for a months shopping?

I think I must be extravagant, as that wouldn't touch the sides here with two of us (although to fhbe honest, I buy cleaning stuff, booze etc., at the same time) lol

Plus, there is a TV costs, Internet, mobile phones, furniture etc., etc.,

I suppose household budgets depend on a lot of variables.

Lin

N1AK

TESTER123 wrote: »

Whenever I sugguest maybe it would be nice for him to pay, he says he cant afford it!

He can afford it (as much as you can or more). Currently he's getting you to subsidise his lifestyle while he uses the money he saves to pay off his debts.

If you're spending £200 a month more than him on shared stuff each month then you're giving him the equivalent of £1,200 a year. Would you agree to give him that, directly as money :rotfl:

That's bigger payments on the mortgage or a couple of holidays a year that you're losing so that he can pay off his debts with your money.

19lottie82

Morglin wrote: »

£250 for a months shopping?

Yes, £250 does us fine.

As I said we buy stuff to take to work for breakfast and lunch, usually have a cooked breakfast for breakfast / lunch at the weekends, so after that all we need to cover is the evening meal.

We usually have steak once a week and a roast on a Sunday.

Also is included is cleaning products and toiletries, but this rarely costs more than £20 a month.

BitterAndTwisted

Maybe it does but then the OP's boyfriend is taking advantage to be expecting her to totally finance the vet's bills, all their take-aways and going out costs.

He's an @rse and I wouldn't stand for it. He gets defensive because he knows you're right to expect him to share the additional costs.

19lottie82

thorsoak wrote: »

Let's not turn this into a "how low can you go" thread - how much the OP and partner spend on food is not the question here - the question is whether or not her partner is being fair in what he pays her.

Please lets keep the judging of the budget out of this thread.

it is relevant if the OPs BF was used to spending £40 a week on food and groceries and then moved in with the OP who spends £600 a month.

BUT, that aside, the OP needs to draw up a full list of household bills, tell her BF to pay his half by DD, and then also tell him that he has to pay for half of all fun stuff and vets bills too.

If he says no, then seriously consider your future with this man

burnoutbabe

if the couple have agreed £500 covers all food/bills, then asking for more is cheeky.

If he agrees to pay 50% then he can also control how often they go out and have takeaways - he may not want to, be more frugal etc.

now vet bills are different, they should also be 50/50 as its a pet taken on jointly when you got together (rather than a pre-existing pet he is fond of)

So scrap the fixed amount (bar for normal elec bills which don't vary) and just do 50/50 on the variable ones like food and going out.