My Ex hubby & father to my child won't give me his new address

DUTR

ecgirl07 wrote: »

Very little to do with football and more to do with using a case of child abuse as the basis of a username and a campaign of slander.

Which is why I asked the poster why he thought using children as pawns is unacceptable in some cases but not in the case of his username?

Nothing to do with agreeing or disagreeing with "politics" either.

It has plenty to do with football and the goings on at the time.

It's all good and well asking the BJK the question if it was IMO balanced with the same question to the OP. IMO they are both (the OP and the ex) as bad as each other on that count. All the PWC needs to know is that the child is safe (which they would be) , to me in between all the car selling, address holding etc, there is a power battle going on, look out for the house to be sold thread by the same poster coming in the next 12 months.

Big_Tree

Deleted as don't want to take thread off topic.

honeybean

BigJockKnew wrote: »

I thought you of all people would have nothing but sympathy for the millions of Fathers in the same position you find yourself in today....

Why like I said we don't bleat on about what life chucks at us am fed up with men saying poor old me, like I said my point is it works both ways not about feeling sympathy. I do have every sympathy with men ,you miss my point like I said it works the other way not all men are the wronged ones sometimes they are the ones doing the wrong thing.

dandelionclock30

spender wrote: »

If you think he is a good father and have no concerns about his parenting why do you want his address? Surely if the child is ill he would contact you and if you have a contact number that should suffice. What purpose does it serve knowing the address?

Are you for real? what if the child wasnt returned to you? what would you say to the police O I dont know the address?
I cant believe some people on this forum, no woman I know would let their child stay with an ex and not know the address, not 1.

DUTR

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Are you for real? what if the child wasnt returned to you? what would you say to the police O I dont know the address?
I cant believe some people on this forum, no woman I know would let their child stay with an ex and not know the address, not 1.

You probably don't remember or choose not to remember, there was a story on the news years ago, where the PWC denied access to the NRP, anyways it seemed the PWC decided to however trust her new partner with their child, guess what? The new partner and the child bidies were found in a forest up north, so as said in other threads Mum doesn't always know best.
The thread whole heartedly is not about whether the the OP trusts the ex or not, after all she decided to have a child with him.
Having the address means little if someone had ulterior motives with fatal effect, you only have to view the headlines to learn that.

supersaver2

DUTR wrote: »

You probably don't remember or choose not to remember, there was a story on the news years ago, where the PWC denied access to the NRP, anyways it seemed the PWC decided to however trust her new partner with their child, guess what? The new partner and the child bidies were found in a forest up north, so as said in other threads Mum doesn't always know best.
The thread whole heartedly is not about whether the the OP trusts the ex or not, after all she decided to have a child with him.
Having the address means little if someone had ulterior motives with fatal effect, you only have to view the headlines to learn that.

Agreed, was just going to put similar. Having an address won't stop somebody who is determined to not return a child to a pwc. I understand wanting to know, but for what purpose? As long as Dad has a contactable number and can be reached in an emergency. The courts won't look favourably on a parent stopping access for this reason. Does Dad have to let you know all his movements when he has your child? Reading some of these responses, is almost like mum is doing dad a favour 'allowing' dad contact, they both have equal responsibility for 'their' child.

DUTR

supersaver2 wrote: »

Agreed, was just going to put similar. Having an address won't stop somebody who is determined to not return a child to a pwc. I understand wanting to know, but for what purpose? As long as Dad has a contactable number and can be reached in an emergency. The courts won't look favourably on a parent stopping access for this reason. Does Dad have to let you know all his movements when he has your child? Reading some of these responses, is almost like mum is doing dad a favour 'allowing' dad contact, they both have equal responsibility for 'their' child.

By the way in the hint above it was the new partner that the PWC had trusted that had brought harm to the child and them himself.
On an aside and keeping with the thread, would the OP (or anybody in a similar situation) want the ex to vet the new partner on the scene?

shegirl

arcon5 wrote: »

'Father of my child'

A sentence like that speaks volume - not your child, both of yours child.
So the 'father of our child' won't give the new address.


Anyway it all sounds a bit raw at the moment

Father of our child sounds incredibly incorrect,grammatically.It is father of my child or we have a child together etc.

Big_Tree

honeybean wrote: »

Why like I said we don't bleat on about what life chucks at us am fed up with men saying poor old me, like I said my point is it works both ways not about feeling sympathy. I do have every sympathy with men ,you miss my point like I said it works the other way not all men are the wronged ones sometimes they are the ones doing the wrong thing.

Without a doubt.....it's disgraceful what happened to you.

thorsoak

Look. let's stop this arguing about what if/what happened/amab/awab etc etc etc - let us just look at this particular case: the OP states that she suspected that her OH was having an affair, confronted him with it, he threw a hissy fit, denied it, but still walked out - but in walking out wants to walk out on debts as well - including HMRC - and he blames OP for being made redundant for "not bringing in enough money" for that. The mortgage is in arrears, and he is demanding that he sells the car (which the OP paid 6/7ths from her redundancy money) AND keeps all the proceeds so that he can get somewhere to live. He is not paying towards his daughter, and tells the OP that if she involves a solicitor she won't ever see him again. Were I in the OP's shoes, I would be glad that I didn't have to see him again - but they have a child together and the OP seems to want to keep contact between her OH and child - but he is refusing to tell her his address. He is playing mind games with her - no doubt.

All this kerfuffle about what life is throwing at any other poster is totally and utterly irrelevant to the thread. Please let's get back to the point.