My Ex hubby & father to my child won't give me his new address

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clearingout wrote: »

so....I can move and I don't have to give you my address? are you OK with that? I have no reason not to give you my address, other than to be difficult. No history of harassment. Just an unhappy split and the occassional desire to hit the ex where it hurts - in the children. Not daft enough to stop contact but daft enough to just want to get under his skin a bit.

Says it all. At least you're proving that getting back at your ex is more important to you than your kids.

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supersaver2 wrote: »

Never noticed that sig, can't imagine it would be very popular if it was a man strangling a person as they were upset!

This forum is full of double standards unfortunately and the women with axes to grind shine through on many threads.

EXACTLY. Seems its ok for a woman though.

dizzietwiggy

What is it about exs's? I was with my ex for 11 years and had 2 children. We was married for 11 months before we split.... now he is seeing my step sister who in which has had his children!! am I the only one that thinks this is sick!!!

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KxMx wrote: »

As do men who think all fathers are perfect unfortunately.

:rotfl:

Of course not. Nothing winds me up more than deadbeat Dads. There are so many dads that get treated unfairly by the system in this country that it annoys me when a few make all dads look the same.

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Mojisola wrote: »

I do get it but courtesy is not the same as what's required by law. A separated parent does not have to tell the PWC all the places they are taking the children when the children are in their care any more than the PWC has to keep notifying the other parent about their whereabouts.

Although the ideal arrangement is for both parents to behave like sensible adults and put the children first, this often doesn't happen.

If the separated parent knew that the PWC would get antsy if an address wasn't given, he/she could give any address - unless the PWC is going to take steps to check up whether this is where the children, it gives him/her an entirely false sense of security.

As you like the what-ifs - what if the separated parent had told you they were going south of the city and there was a pile-up, you could be worried for hours when really the children were safe somewhere to the north.

EXACTLY. Not condoning it because it is a bit childish by the father but to harp on about "how a mother would never let this happen" and expect special treatment just because you are the mother is unnacceptable.

Unless you have any REAL reasons to have concern about the safety of the child, then the other partner has as much right to look after the child as you do. Even if its sensible and courteous to let each other know plans, its not a legal requirement.

dizzietwiggy

im not saying its just bad dads out there but in my experience its 3 father figures who have always let me down... my real father ive never spoke to in 30 years even though he lives 2 minutes away ( his choice).. my step father is rotting in prison where he belongs and my kids father is sleeping with his own childs aunty!!!

dizzietwiggy

dizzietwiggy wrote: »

im not saying its just bad dads out there but in my experience its 3 father figures who have always let me down... my real father ive never spoke to in 30 years even though he lives 2 minutes away ( his choice).. my step father is rotting in prison where he belongs and my kids father is sleeping with his own childs aunty!!!

" if they wed... do my children call her aunty or mum"

mrsHall2b

dizzietwiggy wrote: »

" if they wed... do my children call her aunty or mum"

married or not my exs kids would never call em mum as i am not their mum as i would never expect my daughter to call exs new partner mum.. and i dont call my aunty aunty i use her name..

so surely they will always call her by her name?!

it is a tad odd though, but then alot of my exs have tried to move onto my sister after me or if i turn people down they go to my sister. (shes younger) but hey. the world is a weird place, guess its closest thing to what they dont have?