marriage in trouble

savingmummy

Hope your mum can help in someway - mums are always right!

Let us know what happens.

claire21

Apart from you, do you think your wife is happy in her life, does she like her job ? Have a good circle of friends? Enjoy her hobbies ? Maybe she's depressed with her own life and takes it out on you?
Apart from golf do you have any interests, do you have friends, do you have friends together? Is there anything that's a mutual like that you can do together, talk about etc?

rpc

lonelyguy wrote: »

I fear that this could be the end but am not sure if I have the courage to finish things.

IF it reaches that point, you aren't really finishing things. The relationship would be finished already, you are just the first to put your hand up and acknowledge it.

Hope the macaroni cheese gives you some perspective.

lexington013

It does take a lot of courage to walk away from a relationship/marriage. It sounds like you are agonizing over it quite a bit.
Can you see yourself in a happier more fulfilled place out of the marriage?
If you do then only you can take the next step. I'm sure the love and support of your family will help. I was in a similar position, and it's worked out although not been easy but much better than where I was at......

victory

lonelyguy wrote: »

Ive decided im going round to my mums tonight to chat it out. Im not a mummys boy before you all react! :-) I normally chat to my bro about things but I really need some love right now and need to get myself in a place of strength. Plus her macaroni cheese is awesome even if she doesnt know she is making yet - or I may just make it for her :-)

I hope you can chat it out, you sound as if you are in a lot of pain and having some support will do you the world of good

marisco_2

EdGasket wrote: »

And what about commitment and honouring the promise you gave? Marriage is not about 'what can I get out of it' it is about 'what can I put in'.

Actually it's about reaching a healthy balance of give and take. Feeling secure, content, valued, respected and being with someone that you cant imagine living life without.

lonelyguy

Need to delete

sunshine_shell

You are a very brave man Big hugs!

meritaten

is this just how your wife is? some people just cannot be pleased. no matter what you do, however hard you try - they will pick on something you have or haven't done. While they are 'perfect' of course.
you separated once - you have tried again, and it sounds to me like it isn't working.
Picture this - in twenty years time she is only going to get more picky, less libido - is this what you want for your future? because believe me, people don't always get better with age. mostly they get set in their ways and become worse.

savingmummy

lonelyguy wrote: »

Thanks for all your messages of support. Its amazing how much more relaxed I feel being away from the house!
I think I know what I need to do. My mum has said to remember to be focused on what needs to be done if it goes down that route. Dont procrastinate basically!
I can see myself being happier. Ive not seen my friends as much over the past few years. We spent so much time arguing at weekends.
im staying here for the night.
Im dreading seeing her tomorrow and telling her what I have decided...

Now is your time to stand strong!
Well done for thinking it over and well done to your mum for listening and being there.
To be fair you have nothing to be dreading, you`ve tried your best.