marriage in trouble

marisco_2

lonelyguy wrote: »

Im dreading seeing her tomorrow and telling her what I have decided...

Reaching clarity on a situation is always better than feeling like your head is spinning, and not knowing where you stand or how to move forward. Even more so when you have been judged, criticised, mocked and undermined to the degree where you possibly question your own judgement on situations. It's not easy to face but I think you will feel so much better, once you have seen her tomorrow and told her what you have decided.

meritaten

I rarely suggest a break up of a marriage, but in this case, I think YOU have tried to fix this marraige. and it is beyond repair. it takes Two to make a marriage - not just one person trying. Sorry, I can see your pain in your posts - but you deserve better.

paulineb_2

It's whether you want to live like this for the rest of your days.

okborednow

Good luck today lonelyguy!

Just remember whatever you decide to do we'll all be here to listen and offer advice and support. If in the cold light of day you've changed your mind don't be afraid to come back and tell us, no one will be judging.

If you've gone through with it and need support we'll be there with that too

C

FBaby

Your wife's behaviour seems to be that of someone showing signs of exasperation. Considering yoy are trying hard yet her behaviour is not changing it is not looking to good for a positive reconciliation on this basis.

lonelyguy

Need to delete

BJV

Just wanted to find out how it went.


It will not be easy telling her but it will be worth going through to end it and then you can move on and be happy and perhaps find someone who loves you for you and not what they think you should be.


It will be better for the both of you in the long run.


Good luck.

lonelyguy

Im at work today so wont be able to tell her until tonight.

CH27

I know you are dreading it now but it will be a big relief for you when you do tell her.
Good luck

okborednow

lonelyguy wrote: »

she text me later at night and said if I want to stay at my mums that is fine but also asked me to consider how she is coping etc...
she sees last night as a repeat of last year when I asked for a trial seperation.
I feel a bit bad but then the night before she told me to f off during an argument and said she wasnt coming home that night with no contact for the whole day after until I text her.

I have to say I find her behaviour more than a bit odd. From what you've described she acts pretty badly to you most of this time but now she seems to be saying it bothers her when you leave. Is it that she wants to hang on to her punch bag or does she believe she cares/that this is a relationship worth saving?