marriage in trouble

CH27

She's bullying you my love.
You will never win with this woman as she doesn't care about YOU. She only cares about herself.
Go to your mum & get some TLC.

emmaj30

She's still trying to control you. If she was that upset about the whole thing she would be doing her god damn best to convince you to work it out. Not saying make your mind up and text me!! I know its like pulling a plaster off but you need to go . When it actually hits home soon that you won't be going back and giving into her demands then she will try and crawl back. Her whole reaction to this is how its making her feel about waiting for a decision. IF it was my husband saying this to me I would make sure I would do everything I could to keep him not play mind games
good luck

Melonade

emmaj30 wrote: »

IF it was my husband saying this to me I would make sure I would do everything I could to keep him not play mind games
good luck

This 100%!!!

Mumof2_2

I've been following this from the start but have kept quiet. Can I just wholeheartedly say that I completely agree with Emmaj30; there's no way I'd be doing what your wife is doing I'm afraid and I'd be doing everything in my power to work things out including giving you some much needed space and time.

Take care.

sax11

Wish this topic had been here in december 2012 or i had the courage to post the same

seems to me that the harsh reality is that she has made her decision which is that she wants here current lifestyle with you not part of it but still wants someone there as a backup, hence the controlling demeanour.

This isn't a nice situation to be in.

marisco_2

lonelyguy wrote: »

I keep thinking that this is all my fault :-( :-( :-(

Please realise this is not your fault. You do not deserve to be hurt, to be insulted and ridiculed, to be treated like a doormat, to be left feeling inadequate, have love and affection withheld from you, told what to do when and then receive nothing but criticism and condemnation. You do not deserve to be abused in any way, shape or form. It is natural that you feel confused and upset and need time to think everything over. Someone you love, care about and trust has broken that trust, turned against you and left you feeling lost and numb.

lonelyguy

Maybe I should just text her that its over.
Im at my bros having a chat.
one thing ive noticed is that when you talk about you almost feel as though you are making a mountain out of a molehill. You end up thinking, maybe im being too stubborn? Maybe im being harsh?

if I dont answer her im worried about how she will react to me when I see her next be it tonight or tomorrow.

p.s. holiday is in uk and if it had to be cancelled it wouldnt be the end of the world.

Gigervamp

Don't text her. Let her stew. If you text her, you're allowing her to bully you still.

claire21

What you are feeling now is what a bully makes a victim think.

claire21

noun: love; plural noun: loves
1.
a strong feeling of affection.
"babies fill parents with intense feelings of love"
synonyms: deep affection, fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, endearment; devotion, adoration, doting, idolization, worship; passion, ardour, desire, lust, yearning, infatuation, adulation, besottedness
"his friendship with Helen grew into love"
compassion, care, caring, regard, solicitude, concern, warmth, friendliness, friendship, kindness, charity, goodwill, sympathy, kindliness, altruism, philanthropy, unselfishness, benevolence, brotherliness, sisterliness, fellow feeling, humanity
"their love for their fellow human beings"
relationship, love affair, affair, romance, liaison, affair of the heart, intrigue, amour
"he is confident that their love can survive"

I can't see any of those feelings in your marriage?