British guys!!!

Oduliet

kezzygirl wrote: »

This has to be a wind up, no-one is like this surely?!
The whole drama about being raised by royalty gave it away...bet its someone who works nights, hence the late night posts.

Flippin' hope it isn't true!!!poor bloke lmao!

There is no need to try cause me hurtship . What I mean by raised around royalty is growing up under the rule of a monarchy. FYI I am like this, you have no idea what it was like being me growing up. I'm from a culture where everyone has to be perfect and those like me who have imperfections are singled out and bullied on a daily basis. My obsession with Britain started when I was 18. I was single, had very few friends and was being bullied at school. I used to use a cellphone chat site called AirG which was mainly just full of Americans constantly arguing with each other until I found the UK chat room. Being amongst the Brits was an experience like no other, they never argued, welcomed anyone to come talk with them and were always very polite and funny.

It was here I made 2 true friends who are still friends to this day. They introduced me to everything British and I am so grateful for the support they gave me through the most difficult period of my life. This is when my Anglophilia started. I would listen to British music, watch British Tv and read books written only by British authors. It became a passion of mine which I hold so dearly and I dreamed of escaping the torment I faced daily to be in a country where people will treat you with dignity and respect, no matter how you look. It will be a dream come true to meet a charming British guy who sees beyond my exterior and who will accept me for me. I dream of laying curled up on the sofa by an open fire, in an English cottage reading a book by Jane Austen.

I adore your country and mean you know harm or insult by being a proud Anglophile

Oduliet

I asked him on a date at lunch today and he agreed on the condition it was only as friends because he is not going to be in the USA long enough to establish a solid relationship and wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings when the time came to leave. This is why I love British men! An American would just be looking at it as reason to have sex.

I will now leave you all in peace, I can tell some people don't want me here

Thank you to all the kind people who took their time to respond to me, I value your opinions and advice. Take care and god save the queen

Pyxis

Oh Oduliet, please don't be offended.
This is one of the main drawbacks of communicating by text, email, forum chat etc.; without the visual and oral cues that happen in face-to-face conversations, it can be very difficult to pick up all the subtleties and nuances of what someone is saying, and so it's very hard to tell if someone is being serious or tongue-in-cheek. Add to that a layer of cultural difference and it becomes a minefield.

What you can take away from this experience is the realisation that, deep down, people are the same the world over; some are kind and courteous, others are rude and insensitive, and an awful lot are a strange mixture of the two, depending on the situation.

There have been massive generalisations expressed on all sides in this thread. Some of the descriptions of British men given by Brits on this thread even I, as a fellow Brit, didn't recognise! People are people, everyone is different.

I am so sorry you have been offended, but as I said before, that is one of the big drawbacks of sites like this. Please don't stop being an Anglophile, and please don't lose your dream of being over here. There are loads of great things about Britain, not least our wonderful monarchy, and a great many very nice, tolerant people.

I also hope that you strike up a long and lasting friendship with your British colleague, and that that friendship leads to a future visit by you to beautiful Winchester, ( which is one of my favourite cathedral cities, by the way!)

Do, please, let us know how you get on.
All the best. xx

amanda47

Please don't take any notice, you will always have the odd door Handel hanging around with their snide comments.

axomoxia

Oduliet wrote: »

Eeek! When I was in 10th grade I was asked to pin point Wales on the map and I pinpointed Australia I don't think you can get any worse than that.

You are closer than you think New South Wales in an Australian state!

pollypenny

OP is going to be very disappointed if her idea of British life is lying on a sofa in a cottage, reading a Jane Austen novel in front of an open fire.

Not ringing true! University hols, folks!

SuzieSue

Oduliet wrote: »

I will now leave you all in peace, I can tell some people don't want me here

Just ignore the idiots who have been rude to you. As you can see, there are nasty people in Britain too.


This forum is generally very helpful, but unfortunately there are idiots here just like there are throughout the world.


Please let us know how the lunch date goes.

margaretclare

pollypenny wrote: »

OP is going to be very disappointed if her idea of British life is lying on a sofa in a cottage, reading a Jane Austen novel in front of an open fire.

It's very rare to find an open fire nowadays, the 'clean air' legislation put paid to that.

Jane Austen was very percipient about the people she met around her. Her observations are brilliant and as incisive as a surgeon's scalpel. But, never forget this, she lived in a different age. The group of people she lived among were mainly trying to hang on to the remnants of their 'gentility' while being obsequious to those who had more than they had. The only hope for a young woman of their kind was in what they called a 'good marriage'. The Bennets in 'Pride and Prejudice' typify this way of life exactly.

Remember, however, there were other people and Austen only tangentially mentions them as in 'Hill! Hill! Where is Hill! Miss Jane must have her hair done!' They opened the doors, cooked the meals, drove the carriages, shod the horses, tilled the land, did everything else while Mrs Bennet and her daughters sat in the withdrawing-room waiting for visitors to arrive.

These are the people that most of us English today are descended from. I am the first generation of my family never to have had to 'go into service', to have gone to grammar school, to have had a career of my own, to have gone to university as a mature student, to have my own house, my own car and earned my own pension.

Don't read Jane Austen thinking that's how we are nowadays.

SuzieSue

pollypenny wrote: »

Not ringing true! University hols, folks!

Well stop reading the thread then.

Do you have nothing better to do than comment on threads that you think are a wind up???

Izadora

pollypenny wrote: »

OP is going to be very disappointed if her idea of British life is lying on a sofa in a cottage, reading a Jane Austen novel in front of an open fire.

Okay, if that's the expectation of daily life then it'll be a disappointment but (with the exception that it'd be anything but Jane Austen that I'd be reading) I've spent a fair few holidays in Devon/Cornwall like that.

I would be a terrible disappointment to the tea-drinking Brit stereotype though - I can't stand the stuff, even the smell of it's disgusting, but will drink coffee in pretty much any way, shape or form.