British guys!!!

SuzieSue

daisiegg wrote: »

'British men are raised around royalty'?!?

Come on....I cannot be the only person to think no supposedly 31 year old woman could be this stupid? If you are genuine (let's hope not) then leave the poor guy alone. I'm sure if he wants a girlfriend it would be someone who views him as a human being and not a ridiculous stereotype.

The OP is joking. This is a fun thread, no-one is taking it seriously, the OP knows that she is living in a fairy tale and hopes that she has found her prince charming.

Rowingirl

Oduliet wrote: »

Oh my this is so informative and just makes me want to live there! What an incredible place Winchester is. I think I will have to talk about this to impress you know who

Don't try to impress him with your knowledge Britain/British people and don't assume he'll behave according to your favourite British stereotype. Just be yourself and get to know him as a person in his own right. He'll be far more impressed if you do the latter and may even offer to show you around his home town .

margaretclare

Oduliet wrote: »

British men are raised around royalty and know how to treat a lady. We all grown up wanting to be a princess and who else could treat you like a princess other than a British guy? It is in their blood to be the perfect gentleman.

Ha ha. I can think of a few men to whom this doesn't apply. I can also think of a few others who may *appear* to be the perfect gentleman on the outside, but are very far from treating any woman like a princess.

I can think of one in particular. My late illegitimate father. When I was doing research into family history a decade ago - I had some 'ghosts' to lay, you understand - everyone I spoke to who'd known him or met him said that he was 'so well-mannered, so well-spoken, such a gentleman'. Well, that was the persona he'd chosen to adopt and much of it was based on lies. The accent was cultivated and he had natural good looks and intelligence which made it easier. Think the young Errol Flynn. Most women had fallen head over heels but I met one or two who'd seen straight through him. The man was a double bigamist who couldn't keep it in his trousers, and that wasn't even the worst. A 'chancer', basically. I wouldn't buy a used car off him, knowing what I know about him.

I'm always a bit suspicious, given background and history.

DH by contrast is a 'natural' gentleman. You know where you are with him. What you see is what you get. He's kind and thoughtful because that's the way he is.

Alpha58

Oh gosh.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that all British men are football mad. Real men prefer rugby. Rugby is like what you call football but without the effeminate pads and helmets. "Football is a game for gentlemen played by hooligans and rugby is a game for hooligans played by gentlemen."

Much as you may be captivated by his accent and "Britishness", he is probably equally captivated by yours. Bear in mind though that some words, although the same, carry different connotations, as do certain phrases. I would approach "fanny" and "smoking a fag" with particular caution.

I would not dare to offer advice, especially to a woman, but I may venture to suggest that a knowledge and liking of beer would far outweigh a familiarity with the offside rule. And by beer, I mean brown liquid served at room temperature by the pint. Yellow liquid is not beer. Really.

System

Good luck with asking him on a date! Hope he says yes, you seem nice and it might be nice for him to have someone to get to know. Try not to have too many stereotypes, and just get to know him for being him if that makes sense?

We do have some lovely guys but equally some can be a$$holes (like my ex for example lol)

Buzzybee90

My boyfriend is the perfect English gentleman - I'm sure yours is too!

marisco_2

Oduliet wrote: »

British men are raised around royalty and know how to treat a lady. We all grown up wanting to be a princess and who else could treat you like a princess other than a British guy? It is in their blood to be the perfect gentleman.

There are some British guys who are gentlemen, but like any group of people from anywhere in the world, it's best not to expect everyone to always be the same. It's a good idea to just forget any stereotypes or preconceptions you have about the UK - I guarantee that none of them will be 100% true.

tomtontom

daisiegg wrote: »

'British men are raised around royalty'?!?

Come on....I cannot be the only person to think no supposedly 31 year old woman could be this stupid? If you are genuine (let's hope not) then leave the poor guy alone. I'm sure if he wants a girlfriend it would be someone who views him as a human being and not a ridiculous stereotype.

Remember the Alan Partridge episode when he went to that fan's house, turned out the guy was a bit of a mentalist (AP's words not mine!) and the place was plastered with pictures of him. I'm getting a feeling of deja vu here!

Pyxis

lostinrates wrote: »

Dh's workplace 'offer' mandatory courses reminding people not to open doors for women etc.

Oh, for goodness' sake!!!!!!!

What has happened to common courtesy?

I'm a woman, but all my life, when going through a door, I've looked back to see if anyone was following me, and if they were, I'd hold the door open for them, male or female, young or old.
It angers me if someone walks through a door and doesn't bother to check if someone's behind, so that I get a door in my face.

Plus, it's just normal courtesy to help someone through a doorway if they are struggling with bags, a pram or anything else.

Plus, if I saw someone struggling to put their coat on, male or female, I'd give them a hand.
Plus, if I'm on a bus, and it looks like someone needs a seat more than I do, male or female, old or young, I offer them mine.

It's just helping another human being and thinking of others.

Or am I STBO?

clark24

Oduliet wrote: »

British men are raised around royalty and know how to treat a lady. We all grown up wanting to be a princess and who else could treat you like a princess other than a British guy? It is in their blood to be the perfect gentleman.

Very few British men are 'raised around royalty', and the ones I've met who were (and I've met quite a few) are, in general, complete knobs who treat women like accessories and with very little respect.

Expecting a guy to treat you like a princess because he is British is going to lead to a whole world of disappointment.