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  • marisco_2
    marisco_2 Posts: 4,261 Forumite
    Rather than give him something as a reminder of home, I would recommend suggesting that he does and tries things, that are enjoyed in the States. Part of upping sticks, leaving good old Blighty behind, and moving across the pond to take up a job opportunity, could have been due to a desire to experience a different lifestyle and culture. If he had wanted to be enjoying and focussing on all things British he could have stayed in the UK.
    The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
  • Oduliet
    Oduliet Posts: 85 Forumite
    -taff wrote: »
    British men are rubbish when it comes to actually saying something to someone they fancy, so if you ask him out, if he says no, you know he's not into you. If he says yes, he either is, or can be persuaded.
    How old are you if you're five years older?

    Also, I've found that all of the british men I know are 16 years old in the head. So be careful because they just don't grow up.
    I thought in Britain it was rude to ask a lady her age :p I'm nearly 31, he is 25. Do you think this is too much of an age gap?
    Whoops-a-daisy :cool:
  • Oduliet
    Oduliet Posts: 85 Forumite
    Winchester was the ancient capital of England before the Norman Conquest. One of my all-time favourite men had his capital there, the only one of our kings ever to be called 'the Great'. Alfred. You might like a book by a man who has lived in your country for a long time, Bernard Cornwell. It's called 'The Last Kingdom'. Wessex, Alfred's kingdom, was the only one out of the 4 kingdoms not to fall to the Danes (Vikings). There's a big statue of Alfred in the centre of Winchester and it's a lovely city.
    Oh my this is so informative and just makes me want to live there! What an incredible place Winchester is. I think I will have to talk about this to impress you know who ;)
    Whoops-a-daisy :cool:
  • Oduliet
    Oduliet Posts: 85 Forumite
    Jenny484 wrote: »
    As a German who has been living in the UK for 7 years, I got to say you got some very funny stereotypes in your head. Some Brits hold open doors and help you put on your coat, others don't. The majority don't.

    I can't say that British men are better than any other nationalities I have met. It is about the individual.
    British men are raised around royalty and know how to treat a lady. We all grown up wanting to be a princess and who else could treat you like a princess other than a British guy? It is in their blood to be the perfect gentleman.
    Whoops-a-daisy :cool:
  • Oduliet
    Oduliet Posts: 85 Forumite
    Ozzuk wrote: »
    It's certainly a very romantic view of 'British' men. We could easily be referred to a chavs, or binge drinkers, workshy, any number of growing stereotypes.

    Personally, I'd like to hold onto the the romantic image. I'm Welsh and though I don't have a strong welsh accent the 'ladies' love it when I travel to North America. I blame Hugh Grant.

    I do sometimes get 'Wales? - isn't that part of England?' :D
    Eeek! When I was in 10th grade I was asked to pin point Wales on the map and I pinpointed Australia :o I don't think you can get any worse than that.
    Whoops-a-daisy :cool:
  • Oduliet
    Oduliet Posts: 85 Forumite
    LannieDuck wrote: »
    I'm from Winchester :) It is a lovely place.

    What's a swag fag?

    Am I right that in America it's normal to date a couple of people and then go steady with just one? We only date one person at a time (normally!), so just be aware.
    Ha for me I'm lucky if I get to date 1, though many do date a few guys until they decide on which guy is the best. A swag fag is a trashy girl a bit like someone who came in like a wrecking ball :rotfl:
    Whoops-a-daisy :cool:
  • Oduliet
    Oduliet Posts: 85 Forumite
    Kabazzzz wrote: »
    My ex insulted me in front of our work team on a night out, not an offensive insult as that would've earnt him a smack across the chops but an insult all the same.

    A few months after we started going out he said it was purely to get my attention and I quote "it's a bit like chasing the prettiest girl around the playground"... swoon :p
    I'm very sorry but I am still confused? I have to look out for him to insult me in a non offensive way? Jeez! By the way I love the saying smack across the chops :rotfl:
    Whoops-a-daisy :cool:
  • Oduliet
    Oduliet Posts: 85 Forumite
    Hey guys I am going to ask him to go on a date tomorrow at lunch. There is a country dance not far from where I live on Saturday and I want him to be my date :o I will update you all on his answer and I pray to god my dream comes true.

    It sucks being 5 hours behind you guys, because you are all so funny and friendly. It would have been more fun if I was able to respond to you all in UK time. I appreciate you all so much :) sleep tight people of the UK :)
    Whoops-a-daisy :cool:
  • Richard53
    Richard53 Posts: 3,173 Forumite
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    edited 24 April 2014 at 5:34AM
    I have a friend who lived in the States for a while when he was younger. He has a proper English accent (i.e., Home Counties) and he said it was brilliant. Girls (and their mothers) were queuing up just to talk to him, and he had more offers than he knew what to do with :)

    Most of us are decent, honest people, and this guy sounds to be a 'decent chap' if your description is correct. British guys are a lot more reserved than Americans, in my experience. Where you all whoop and holler and tell everybody your innermost secrets, we tend to keep things quiet, and only open up or show emotion to people we are comfortable with. (Yes, I am stereotyping massively here.)

    Ask him for a coffee (I doubt if he would get a cup of tea to his taste in the US anyway) and take it from there. Be fun, be charming, but don't be needy or over-critical. If it works, it works. And, incidentally, five years between you is nothing. My wife is 12 years older than me, and it's never been a problem for us - and only very rarely for other people. I look quite young for my age, and I remember the time when a delivery man asked my wife "could your son help me with the parcel?" She didn't know what to say, so I just hugged her, gave her a kiss and a gentle slap on the behind, and said "sure". The man's face was a picture.

    Go for it!

    [Edit: just re-read this and am blushing. I kissed her on the top of the head, and then slapped her behind, not ... you know.]
    If someone is nice to you but rude to the waiter, they are not a nice person.
  • daisiegg
    daisiegg Posts: 5,395 Forumite
    Oduliet wrote: »
    British men are raised around royalty and know how to treat a lady. We all grown up wanting to be a princess and who else could treat you like a princess other than a British guy? It is in their blood to be the perfect gentleman.

    'British men are raised around royalty'?!?

    Come on....I cannot be the only person to think no supposedly 31 year old woman could be this stupid? If you are genuine (let's hope not) then leave the poor guy alone. I'm sure if he wants a girlfriend it would be someone who views him as a human being and not a ridiculous stereotype.
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