British guys!!!

Oduliet

Hey guys :cool: I spent the last hour searching Bing for advice on a relationship with a British guy and stumbled across this forum. I hope it's not just for British people because I totally need advice on British guys

So greetings from Lancaster, PA. 2 months ago a British guy came here to the USA to work for our company which is a sister company of 1 in Britain. The moment I saw him I fell in love! Being a self confessed anglophile I've longed for the day to meet a British guy. My dream Brit was always Matthew Crawley off of Downton, "Oh Matthew why did you leave us?" but now this guy has me all googley eyed like Pavlov's dog. His accent just makes my ovaries explode!!

British guys are so much better than American guys and so different. They never talk about I, me or money. This guy will ask me how I am or how my day was and I don't have to force the conversation with him, he will casually talk to me. As you can imagine he is getting lots of attention from the swag fag's here, which I'm not and I'm not sure he is impressed by their advances. He's much more classy, typical of a Brit :T

I've wanted to ask him out on a date for a long time. I am 5 years older than him and with American guys I always have to go running after them but with this Brit guy I don't know what to do? How do you date a British guy? This is why I came here, British people will know best.

Oduliet

Add me to the 40 watt club, sat here waiting for a response and just realized it is 03.00am in London

double_mummy

its gone 3am lol and some of us are still up

british guys are like american and any other set of men you get absolute idiots through to prince charming and everything in between

personally i didnt marry an english guy but married a guy i love regardless of his nationality

maybe during one of your conversations that you are really busy but could you meet up later for a coffee or dinner to finish the conversation

Ozzuk

We British men are a complex bunch, we have lots of strange customs when dating 'the ladies', we assume you are incapable of opening doors or putting your own coat on, we'll nod a lot, we like to make things with wood, we love all things British such as curry, we laugh at anything toilet related, we get embarrassed at any public displays of affection though if you are feeling down and need help we will firmly shake your hand and maybe slap your shoulder.

So you could try learning all our customs, learn the rules of football, understand and appreciate what Ale is, learn to cook.

Or you could just ask us to coffee and stop overthinking

Maybe offer to show him the sights. Wink when you say that, we love innuendo.

daisiegg

You sound very young. If he is 5 years younger than you, are you sure he is old enough for it to actually be legal for you to date him? :cool:

growler834

Good advice from Ozzuk. Many years ago I fancied a guy who had transferred to our workplace from another part of the UK. I knew that he would be embarrassed in front of his colleagues if I made an obvious play for him so I casually approached him at the bar, introduced myself & asked him how he was settling in to the job & the area. As he was new to our city I said 'You're probably inundated with offers to show you around our lovely city but I would be honoured to help out - just get in touch'. It worked for me!

fivetide

growler834 wrote: »

As he was new to our city I said 'You're probably inundated with offers to show you around our lovely city but I would be honoured to help out - just get in touch'. It worked for me!

This. We're not difficult. Just a friendly face, someone we can have a laugh with etc!

An offer like this is a good chance for you both to get to know each other without any other context. If it feels good you can always see what happens.

The only thing to be mindful of is dating a colleague!

delain

That is a really sweet post, OP.

Just because he's British doesn't mean you can't ask him for coffee or whatever. We have coffee in England too! just be straightforward

egoode

Having lived in Australia, the US and the UK I can assure you no nationality is better than the other in regards to the guys. You can find really nice guys and really awful guys in all these countries. Don't get so hung up on him being British. Just ask him out for a coffee.

margaretclare

There are differences between the 4 nations which make up the UK - Scotland, Wales, England, N Ireland. Where exactly does he come from? Even within England there will be differences. A Yorkshireman isn't the same as a Londoner.

Don't make the mistake of confusing him with any fictional character in a TV series, especially not a series set 100 years ago. A lot of those awful class-distinctions you see on a series like 'Downton Abbey' have gone out the window, and not before time. WWs I and II did a lot for that. You say he's 'classy'. I hope you don't mean snobby and toffee-nosed, I hope you mean courteous and thoughtful of your needs.

The very first thing my DH ever said to me was 'how was your day?' This told me: he was interested in me, wasn't just out for all he could get.

One guy I could really fall for is called Iolo Williams - he's a Welsh wildlife TV presenter.

Coffee is a great ice-breaker!

fabforty

Oduliet wrote: »

Hey guys :cool: I spent the last hour searching Bing for advice on a relationship with a British guy and stumbled across this forum. I hope it's not just for British people because I totally need advice on British guys

So greetings from Lancaster, PA. 2 months ago a British guy came here to the USA to work for our company which is a sister company of 1 in Britain. The moment I saw him I fell in love! Being a self confessed anglophile I've longed for the day to meet a British guy. My dream Brit was always Matthew Crawley off of Downton, "Oh Matthew why did you leave us?" but now this guy has me all googley eyed like Pavlov's dog. His accent just makes my ovaries explode!!

British guys are so much better than American guys and so different. They never talk about I, me or money. This guy will ask me how I am or how my day was and I don't have to force the conversation with him, he will casually talk to me. As you can imagine he is getting lots of attention from the swag fag's here, which I'm not and I'm not sure he is impressed by their advances. He's much more classy, typical of a Brit :T

I've wanted to ask him out on a date for a long time. I am 5 years older than him and with American guys I always have to go running after them but with this Brit guy I don't know what to do? How do you date a British guy? This is why I came here, British people will know best.

My advice would be to take the rose-tinted spectacles off, and approach him as you would any other man. Men are men. We have dogs and jerks here too, and not every Brit has class. If a man has treated you well in the past, it is because he is that type of person, not because he has British blood flowing through his veins. If he seems ok, then talk to him - don't hit on him, just talk.


Another tip, if he seems unimpressed by the other women, perhaps they are treating him like a novelty instead of like a person in his own right. You don't date an accent, you date a person. My dad has dual citizenship (British and American), wonder what you would make of him?


ETA - Very few Brits are like 'Matthew Crawley' from Downton.