Boyfriend advice - am I going crazy?

brenda10

ohtobehappy wrote: »

long time lurker, first time poster :-(

you know when deep down you know something isn't right but you don't know how to change it or if it's your fault, well that's how i'm feeling :-(

been with boyfriend about 2 years now and when he's nice we are fine, but more recently his behaviour is becoming unpredictable.

We don't live together and i have a teenage daughter and i don't want her to think that my relationship is normal. But i'm beginning to doubt myself and wonder if it is normal and i'm just making a mountain out of a molehill. Any advice welcome.

Have been together for 2 years, do not live together. Both in our 30's. I've never been married and he's been married 3 times, twice cheated on and third wife said unreasonable behaviour .

When he's lovely things are great but he's very unpredictable. The slightest thing can start him off on a rant. He's never been violent but he uses bad language at me and belittles me about my life.

I do love him but his outburst are becoming more frequent the further we get into a relationship. I try to pacify him and not cause rows and say sorry for saying the wrong thing. Sometimes this works and other times he ignores me for days. It breaks my heart.

My previous relationship experience wasn't like this and i'm not sure it's normal. He doesn't like me going out in the evenings, he doesn't like what i wear when i'm not with him and he hates my friends, mind you my friends hate him too.

Is it normal for a guy to treat you this way after 2 years ? I try not to provoke him and do as i'm asked. Am i better off trying to move on ? It's like i don't have my own mind anymore, struggle to see the woods for the trees. Any advice appreciated.

Sorry to ramble :-(

get rid!!!!!!!!

Yorkie1

brenda10 wrote: »

get rid!!!!!!!!

OP did get rid, about 2-3 pages ago

Byzantium14

On the basis that the things we teach our children are much more to do with what we do, rather than what we say, you have just given your daughter a priceless life lesson.

Well done.

(I don't know if this still needs saying, but you sound like a kind and caring person. Do not answer his calls, delete his texts unread, and cut off all contact. He's quite likely to try and win you back at some point, and if you're soft enough he may well succeed. Don't risk it.)