Boyfriend advice - am I going crazy?

seven-day-weekend

Ohtobehappy wrote: »

Thanks again for replies. It's made me think. He says that all relationships are like this and he's not selfish nor angry, it's just that I can do 'his head in' sometimes.

Tbh if you ask any of my friends they would say I'm pretty easy going, hate confrontation and an generally happy go lucky .

Absolute rubbish. All relationships are not like that. I have been married for over forty years and my relationship has never been like that. Nor does my husband 'do my head in'. Your boyfriend is trying to make YOU responsible for HIS bad behaviour.

As I sad before, his temper is his responsibility. Whether you 'do his head in' or not (and I bet you don't), it is his responsibility how he responds to that.

He will only change for the worse, I think. He will not get better unless he gets help, which he won't do while he is blaming you for his temper.

(ETA: Just read your update. Right decision. Good luck ).

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Ohtobehappy wrote: »

Thanks FB, you've hit the nail on the head. It sounds like you know him! He's dissatisfied with everything. Nothing is good enough and I don't feel like I can please him :-( . He has low self esteem but on the other hand thinks he's superior to everyone. It's so confusing.

He's becoming more controlling and I just feel at a loss. He has had anger management classes with first wife, but he says he was told it was her fault as she wound him up.

I'm worried about the negative effect it may have on my daughter. I don't want her to think it's on for a man to talk to her as he talks to me. Can men change ? I'm not sure. :-(

Why did he have Anger Management?


It's flagging up domestic violence to me.





Run.


ETA: Make sure there's somebody who knows exactly where you are - get them to come and pick you up at a prearranged time/waiting outside in the car, that sort of thing.

Leaving is your most dangerous time.

Ohtobehappy

Well we've split. He's taken the few odds and sods that were in my house and gone. No big scene just a face like thunder. Doors bolted, daughter at friends house a few doors down and a big bar of chocolate for me now !

Hoping that will be the last of it and I won't get any texts etc.

Thanks for all the advice and support. Xxxx

Cottage_Economy

Ohtobehappy wrote: »

Well we've split. He's taken the few odds and sods that were in my house and gone. No big scene just a face like thunder. Doors bolted, daughter at friends house a few doors down and a big bar of chocolate for me now !

Hoping that will be the last of it and I won't get any texts etc.

Thanks for all the advice and support. Xxxx

Well done you:T:T:T:T

tracey3596

Just had to say ..... well done you. :T
It's not an easy thing to do, but one thing I can PROMISE you: things WILL get better. :A
Oh, and if (IF) you do get texts BE BRAVE and ignore them.

DUTR

Ohtobehappy wrote: »

Well we've split. He's taken the few odds and sods that were in my house and gone. No big scene just a face like thunder. Doors bolted, daughter at friends house a few doors down and a big bar of chocolate for me now !

Hoping that will be the last of it and I won't get any texts etc.

Thanks for all the advice and support. Xxxx

See not everybody is a maniac :cool:
Wish you both well for the future.

marisco_2

Well done for ending such a toxic relationship. You will never regret it. Life can only get better and happier from here on in for you now.

Valli

Well done you...

meritaten

Well done and good on you. Good luck and I hope you find a decent person soon.

claire16c

DUTR wrote: »

See not everybody is a maniac :cool:
Wish you both well for the future.

He's already been acting like a maniac.


Well done OP.