Boyfriend advice - am I going crazy?

neverdespairgirl

Ohtobehappy wrote: »

He has had anger management classes with first wife, but he says he was told it was her fault as she wound him up.
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I'm calling bullsh!t on that one - I'd be prepared to bet that no-one has ever, ever been told that in anger management counselling. He's spinning you a line.

DUTR

claire16c wrote: »

He's already been acting like a maniac.


Well done OP.

Of course I'm going to disagree, yes the way he has been acting is not ideal, thankfully he didn't hit the roof when the relationship was terminated and we read about it on the front page of the papers tomorrow. The OP has completed the deed and can now move on, and her ex can feel free to seek somebody more suitable for him too, relationships don't have to end ugly or the pair remain aquainted, I'm sure many of the readers here have been on both sides of the fence (dumped or dumping) , and the final episode does not become the bloke becomes a serial stalker etc :eek:

paulineb_2

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'm calling bullsh!t on that one - I'd be prepared to bet that no-one has ever, ever been told that in anger management counselling. He's spinning you a line.

I agree, sounds like a load of !!!!!!!! to me, however Ive known people to do anger management "counselling", who werent anger management counsellors.

paulineb_2

Ohtobehappy wrote: »

Well we've split. He's taken the few odds and sods that were in my house and gone. No big scene just a face like thunder. Doors bolted, daughter at friends house a few doors down and a big bar of chocolate for me now !

Hoping that will be the last of it and I won't get any texts etc.

Thanks for all the advice and support. Xxxx

Block his number, I can do it on my Iphone but on my android I had to download a free app, seriously, make life easy for yourself, dont give him the option to harass you.

lickybits

it seems like hes carrying a lot of emotional baggage from previous relationships.and it sound's like his old flames wanted out of their relationships with him, when people often want out of a relationship they look else where before they jump, i'm betting they saw no future with him and looked for affection else where, feeling they deserved to be treated better, i don't condone cheating but often girls in abusive relationships (emotionally) will look else where before just walking away.

he also sound's like a bit of a control freak to me

lickybits

just want to say, all the best for the future i think by what you've been saying that you'll be better of with someone new who will love and appreciate you

DUTR

lickybits wrote: »

it seems like hes carrying a lot of emotional baggage from previous relationships.and it sound's like his old flames wanted out of their relationships with him, when people often want out of a relationship they look else where before they jump, i'm betting they saw no future with him and looked for affection else where, feeling they deserved to be treated better, i don't condone cheating but often girls in abusive relationships (emotionally) will look else where before just walking away.

he also sound's like a bit of a control freak to me

That could be true , but it's not the OP's problem to solve.

beautiful_ravens

Well done OP. Best of luck for the tomorrows!

Wi88le

Ohtobehappy wrote: »

Well we've split. He's taken the few odds and sods that were in my house and gone. No big scene just a face like thunder. Doors bolted

If he's had keys to yours get the locks changed for peace of mind

seven-day-weekend

Well done. You and your daughter will both be happier. Enjoy the rest of your life.