Boyfriend advice - am I going crazy?

Bella73

Sounds like you have got your answer, I would leave him now while you still have some confidence left, leave it too long and you won't.

Enjoy some time with your daughter and forget about him. Better to be on your own than with a man who doesn't treat you properly. Always concerns me when people have to be on eggshells around their bf/gf that is just not normal on any level.

getmore4less

Ohtobehappy wrote: »

Have been together for 2 years, do not live together. Both in our 30's. I've never been married and he's been married 3 times, twice cheated on and third wife said unreasonable behaviour .

Is this what he told you or something you KNOW for sure.
History is saying this guy get's it wrong more than he gets it right


That aside, the current behaviour is not acceptable.

Just move on this is probably not going to be worth the effort to correct it.

paulineb_2

Not normal and deep down am sure you know that.

Ohtobehappy

I think in my heart I know the answer. But it's nice to have some objective views. My mum has been telling me for months to walk away, but I'm a strong believer in trying to work things through and it wasn't always like this. The first 6 months were amazing, but it's been getting slowly worse every day.

It doesn't help that he doesn't have children and that I work in a shop on minimum wage and he's a bank manager on a very good wage. It's another stick to beat me with. Think my self esteem has taken a battering.

Thanks very much for all your input xx

paulineb_2

Sounds like an ex relationship of mine, the first 6 months were amazing. Can take people time to show their true colours.

It's him, not you. Get out before you have no self worth left.

xbrenx

Ohtobehappy wrote: »

Thanks guys. I think I just needed the reassurance that it's not me. I am beginning to doubt myself and question what is acceptable behaviour and what's not.

My daughter is my priority. I don't want her seeing me treated badly

Xx

That says it all really. You KNOW you're being treated badly. I agree with the others who say no one should walk on egg shells. *hugs*

currylover2013

I'm concerned that he is on the slippery slope of trying to control you, it does not sound a happy relationship, and you're right, your daughter (and you, for that matter) are your top priorities. Good luck

Prothet_of_Doom

He's the sort of bloke that makes me look like god's gift to woman folk.
Get out whilst you can.

Slinky

You've only been together 2 years and have spent 18 months 'trying to make it work'.

He's been married 3 times in his 30s......

Doesn't look like a recipe for a marriage made in heaven. Walk away before wasting any more time on him. Whilst you're with him, you are denying yourself the opportunity of meeting somebody who will be better suited to you.

duchy

The first six months of most relationships are "amazing" it's once the first glow has worn off and we're more comfortable and not trying to impress that how people really are start showing..... and he's shown you. You've tried to work things out but 6 months of good and 18 months of not good is enough of a chance to give him. He's not going to change or have a personality transplant now.

Honestly I can't see things getting any better......and you're never going to meet someone else whilst you are in a relationship and you deserve better. Cut him lose , and get your life back to where you aren't walking on eggshells all the time. Good luck !