nasty old man next door :-(

barbiedoll

It's all very well, making comments about how the old guy may be a war hero (like that excuses his behaviour) or how a grown woman shouldn't be intimidated by a helpless old man etc etc, but unless you have lived next door to a "neighbour from hell", it is difficult to understand just how much these people can ruin your life.

My best friend almost had a nervous breakdown after living next door to someone equally cantankerous and nasty. She was afraid to step out of her own front door in the end, and had to put up with accusations of cruelty to her animals (logged by the RSPCA as a "malicious accusation"), she was reported to Environmental Health (because her kids dared to play out in the garden during daylight hours, also logged as a malicious accusation) and she had broken glass dumped outside her doorstep, which injured one of her dogs. She lost over 2 stone in weight and it almost brought her marriage to an end.

OP has received good advice: to log everything and to report everything. She needs to nip it in the bud now, this man won't improve with age, nor will he stop just because she waves at him through the window when he is harassing her. People like this have no respect for anyone, they don't deserve any respect back, war record or not.

It's definitely not a laughing matter.

FatVonD

Mojisola wrote: »

It sounded as if you thought that because he was worried about weeds, he was entitled to get his son to remove the plants.

Nope. If there was any ambiguity I already said (in my post numbered 35) that I wasn't suggesting that, which is in fact the post you quoted to tell me (again ) that it didn't.

FatVonD

pimento wrote: »

Er, no, he wasn't.

If the OP wants to grow weeds in her garden it's nothing to do with the next door neighbour.

Lol!

She isn't saying he was, she's saying I said he was.

And I wasn't either :rotfl:

I blame the retrograde Mercury.

LandyAndy

chewmylegoff wrote: »

No one here knows whether or not this individual fought in any war. ."

We can be pretty certain that this chap didn't fight in WW1 as, if he is 90, he was minus 6 years old when it ended.

floatsy

barbiedoll wrote: »

It's all very well, making comments about how the old guy may be a war hero (like that excuses his behaviour) or how a grown woman shouldn't be intimidated by a helpless old man etc etc, but unless you have lived next door to a "neighbour from hell", it is difficult to understand just how much these people can ruin your life.

My best friend almost had a nervous breakdown after living next door to someone equally cantankerous and nasty. She was afraid to step out of her own front door in the end, and had to put up with accusations of cruelty to her animals (logged by the RSPCA as a "malicious accusation"), she was reported to Environmental Health (because her kids dared to play out in the garden during daylight hours, also logged as a malicious accusation) and she had broken glass dumped outside her doorstep, which injured one of her dogs. She lost over 2 stone in weight and it almost brought her marriage to an end.

OP has received good advice: to log everything and to report everything. She needs to nip it in the bud now, this man won't improve with age, nor will he stop just because she waves at him through the window when he is harassing her. People like this have no respect for anyone, they don't deserve any respect back, war record or not.

It's definitely not a laughing matter.

I think it's good to respect people for who they are, but that is the point - who they are. Young, old, fat, thin, rich, poor - on merit is always nice IMHO.

Good post. thanks.

pollypenny

LandyAndy wrote: »

We can be pretty certain that this chap didn't fight in WW1 as, if he is 90, he was minus 6 years old when it ended.

Pardon, Andy?

If he is 90 he was born in 1924, like my mother, and would have been 21 when the war ended in 1945.

He could have been conscripted at the age of 18.

Edit: sorry, read it as WW2, which is the excuse someone made,

thorsoak

pollypenny wrote: »

Pardon, Andy?

If he is 90 he was born in 1924, like my mother, and would have been 21 when the west ended in 1945.

He could have been conscripted at the age of 18.

WWI was 1914-1918. WWII was 1939-1945.

adouglasmhor

DaveTheMus wrote: »

If he is 90 he probably fought in WWII......something to think about.

Possibly on the Russian front in the Britisches Freikorps if we are going to make idle speculatons. or he could have had flat feet, been in a reserved occupation, been a conschie, or a student.

ska_lover

OP I could have written most of your original post myself. Saved for years to get the house and then a few months ago finally achieved it.

On the day we moved in, the elderly man next door came round to complain about 'moving in noise' and hasn't stopped knocking the door to complain about petty things since. Last occasion I told him not to come onto my property again

Our back garden fence is small, and if we are in the garden he comes out into his, to stand in the middle watching what we are doing. Just standing and watching.

6 foot fencing is going up this weekend

adouglasmhor

DaveTheMus wrote: »

Fighting in World War II is more courageous and selfless act than anything anyone on this thread has ever done.

Without people like this guy, we would be communicating in German.

I didn't say it excused his behaviour, it doesn't. But the fact remains that if he is a WWII veteran, he's done more for this country than any of us.

Without people like me we would be speaking in Russian. You don't know what it's like being a cold war hero, the queues at the NAFFI, the endless struggle to convince German women you weren't like every other squaddie, the excesive alchohol consuption and the tax free cars. You don't know what it was like man you weren't there.