nasty old man next door :-(

DCFC79

As Alibobsy said, think of something funny and when he looking in wave to him and have a little laugh like you don't take him seriously. Dont let him get to you.

rochja

I am intrigued by this linear thinking concept and want to know if I have understood it properly. Is it when someone lives in your country and you think he may have fought in the war you assume it would have been on your side?

pimento

DaveTheMus wrote: »

If he is 90 he probably fought in WWII......something to think about.

Adolph Hitler fought in WW1.

pimento

Mojisola wrote: »

It sounded as if you thought that because he was worried about weeds, he was entitled to get his son to remove the plants.

Er, no, he wasn't.

If the OP wants to grow weeds in her garden it's nothing to do with the next door neighbour.

globetraveller

next time you see him in your garden, have an airraid siren ready( you can google to find). As he has been in the war he should run indoors and hide under the table. Of course, he might just go over the top and go for the attack. Just be careful.
I think it's brilliant you live next door to a WW2 hero. Not many of them left now. Does he still have his medals? Perhaps you could engage him in conversation one day and find out what he did.

LilElvis

OK DaveTheMus,

Given your views on 'war service', how should my Mother-In-Law react to her neighbour repeatedly parking in the 'visitors only' bay at her apartment block, despite the fact that he (and all the residents) has his own garage? Please note that parking in the visitors bays is in contravention of the agreement with the owner of the freehold of the apartment block.

She is 82 and German (from Bergen, as in concentration camp, and her father was the manager of the camp laundry, though one of only 2 men in the town who weren't members of the Nazi party), her late husband was an officer in the British Army and later an agent for the British security services during the cold war. The neighbour is Lebanese with a Swedish wife.

What on earth bearing does (possible) war service have with behaving in a way which is both rude and intrusive into the OPs enjoyment of her own property? For me the answer is Not At All.

But, what is your view? Can't wait to hear why anyone should be forgiven appalling manners simply because they wore a uniform nearly 70 years ago.

DaveTheMus

DaveTheMus wrote: »

Fighting in World War II is more courageous and selfless act than anything anyone on this thread has ever done.

Without people like this guy, we would be communicating in German.

I didn't say it excused his behaviour, it doesn't. But the fact remains that if he is a WWII veteran, he's done more for this country than any of us.

For people that have difficulty reading and digesting the written word...
Almost 40 posts ago.

I will echo, I don't think, possibly, being a WWII veteran excuses his behaviour, it's just something that, I personally, would take into account when dealing with a situation like this.

My view might seem ridiculous to others, fair enough.

I think it's equally ridiculous, almost comical, that a 90 year old man is capable of intimidating or upsetting anyone.

From what I've read, a few broken branches, an old wandering into your back garden a few times, bad mouthing the neighbours, it really is mountains and molehills.

Everyone is different though, and I do understand people can be sensitive and easily upset, it's not something that would get to me.

Personally, I wouldn't let it bother me.

Georgiegirl256

DaveTheMus wrote: »

For people that have difficulty reading and digesting the written word...
Almost 40 posts ago.

I will echo, I don't think, possibly, being a WWII veteran excuses his behaviour, it's just something that, I personally, would take into account when dealing with a situation like this.

My view might seem ridiculous to others, fair enough.

I think it's equally ridiculous, almost comical, that a 90 year old man is capable of intimidating or upsetting anyone.

From what I've read, a few broken branches, an old wandering into your back garden a few times, bad mouthing the neighbours, it really is mountains and molehills.

Everyone is different though, and I do understand people can be sensitive and easily upset, it's not something that would get to me.

Personally, I wouldn't let it bother me.

For what it's worth Dave, I agree with you. I don't think I'd let it bother me. But as you say, different things upset different people, and until we actually are in their shoes, I guess we can't say for sure. I would be telling the old guy and his son to keep out of my garden, and if they don't then I will be contacting the police. But as I don't think his meddling is coming from a nasty place, I certainly wouldn't be saying some of the nasty things some people in this thread are suggesting.

IMO the neighbour could be a whole lot worse, like my aunties neighbour for instance. After my uncle hung himself, their neighbour hung a figure from their washing line. :mad: they hadn't gotten on for years, but the neighbour seemed to step it up a notch even after that happened....they're sick in the head tbh.

sassyblue

krazyburd23 wrote: »

My understanding from the estate agents was that the lady who lived here had cancer and sadly died and then the husband didn’t want to stay here without her so moved on. There was no mention of any disputes on any of the paperwork we received.

I was fuming when he shouted at my mum and gutted that I wasn’t there to stick up for her. If I was there I’d have told him what for but it didn’t feel right knocking on his door and having a go at him.

Before your next move ASK about neighbours and disputes, estate agents and owners are not allowed to lie about this.

Next time, don't afford him any grace, go knock their door and put him in his place.

I would put up a false CCTV camera as suggested and keep a diary of events. As well as sending him the letter on l would let him know you will be keeping a diary of their unreasonable behaviour, oh, l would even tell him you know about his history but then that's me - l tend to come down hard when I'm pushed to let people know they won't be tolerated.

fin7

chewmylegoff wrote: »

No one here knows whether or not this individual fought in any war. What is certain is that it is completely irrelevant whether he did or not, his behaviour is unacceptable either way.

I find it hilarious that it has actually been suggested that people should overlook their neighbour and his son entering their garden and removing plants on the basis that they are old enough to have possibly fought in a particular war.

"What's all that racket in the garden?"
"Oh it's just crazy Gerald - did you know he's old enough to have possibly been in the army in the Second World War - and his son, they've just popped through the hole in the fence and are cutting down our roses again, I'm going to take him a cup of tea and some hobnobs"
"Chocolate or plain?"
"Chocolate."
"Word."

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