nasty old man next door :-(

Saint_Chris

1 - get dummy cctv up at the end of your garden pointing at his fence and the back wall, make sure it's high up on a post


2 - infront of his fence on your side knock wood into the ground and get barbed wire and take it along and make a fence.


3 - each and every time he approaches you or a member of your family, take your mobile out, and just say 'one min plesase I need to tape this conversation'....he is likely to say 'why', just say 'oh I have been advised to'.................and leave it at that.


And good luck, our elderly neighbour seemed to think that he was entitled to walk up our back path and look through our window when we was at work.
A few placed signs in our living room with, you are trespassing, and are on film doing so soon stopped him.


Then again he was one of those you can't park on my front gang, well I can and I will, as will anyone who visits my house.
And each and every time he came running out to shout at us, I made sure I had headphones in my ears, and just shrugged my shoulders at him.

FatVonD

Mojisola wrote: »

But not why he would have thought he could go into the neighbour's garden and pull plants up!

Can you kindly point to my post where I said it did because I don't believe there is one?

gozaimasu

floralaura wrote: »

No advice as such but just wanted say he's 90, the awful old sod will be gone soon enough if nothing else!

By the sounds of it, the son is equally as disrespectful, so things might continue as they are if he decides to live in it after the inheritance!

DKLS

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

From the sounds of it, the OP appears to have better manners than you.

The neighbour might be being a disrespectful PITA, but to say things like that to anyone shows more about your character than it does about anyone else's.

Wow what talent to diagnose my character in a couple of lines on a forum, I know they are looking for Forensic Psychiatrists where the missus works, shall I ask her to put a word in for you?

Personally I am of the view that the only good neighbour is the one that is decomposing on the living room floor so my comment still stands.

Might be rude but it certainly hits its mark when used appropriately.

Mojisola

krazyburd23 wrote: »

we shortened our walk and returned home, only to find his son leaning into our garden pulling things out whilst he stood there pointing to him what he wanted removed!

FatVonD wrote: »

If your garden was very overgrown is there a possibility that you have ground elder and that's what he's worried about?

It sounded as if you thought that because he was worried about weeds, he was entitled to get his son to remove the plants.

Errata

It;s highly likely that a 90 year old has a degree if dementia which demonstrates through behaviour. The son may not have cottoned on to it and believe the berhaviour is both rational and normal.

goonarmy

DaveTheMus wrote: »

If you take the time to read my initial post on the subject, it includes the word probably.

What has it got to do with him invading the OP's privacy?

Thankfully I'm not restricted by simple linear avenues of thought. If he lived next door to me I would forgive any 'invasions', solely based on what he and his entire generation sacrificed to ensure that we remained a free and democratic country.

However I do understand this is a serious issue of broken branches and cross words so I don't expect many people to turn the other cheek.

Then you are an idiot. But its ok for me to say that. I fought in the war.

krazyburd23

Krlyr – sorry, I must have misunderstood :=) Sounds like an excellent idea!!! I think the height limits are 2 meters max, so think that would be ideal.


Rochja – thanks for the links, I like the look of that reed screening, looks really nice. Will read the reviews later on and speak to my OH.


Busiscoming – thank you for the tip re the builders/fencing merchants! When I see my other neighbour I will ask him if he can get anything cheaper too ;=)


Goonarmy – the imp inside me loves this idea, but I must resist :=)



DavetheMus – I genuinely think if he had fought in the war he’d have said something about it, so I doubt this to be honest. If he had have done so of course it would be an amazing thing but I do not feel it would give him lifelong rights to invade other peoples personal space and touch things that don’t belong to him. I actually think he is just a spiteful nasty control freak/bully who has no respect for anyone else :=( He knew he was in the wrong which is why he wouldn’t return the branches to me when I asked for them. Also, he clearly waited for us to go out to do it.


Jellie – I have no clues regarding his deeds, all I remember from ours is they state we own the fence to the left (not his side) when we face the property, I don’t remember anything about maintenance. Will go through them again and see if I can find anything, possibly his will be the same/similar?



Also my OH is not running a business from here, when I meant working in his workshop, I didn’t mean he ‘work works’ in there. (It’s too big to be called a shed and as it’s at the end of the garden it’s not really a garage either lol). He is a self-employed painter/decorator, occasionally he does a bit of joinery to some of his client’s furniture but it’s once in a blue moon and only if it requires the machines that aren’t really suitable to transporting to their houses. More often he’ll be down there doing things for us.



Krlyr – you hit the nail on the head :=) I can handle the broken fence, it’s an eyesore but it’s not the end of the world. I think he is leaving it out on purpose to give him access to our garden to remove things he doesn’t particularly like (not that actually cause him problems in any way) and to get access to his property to do his jobs. (like the wall painting). I have no issues with a handyman coming on to my property to do any of these things but I expect them to be respectful and courteous enough to tell me before, not rely on him checking to see if my curtains were open (this actually made me feel sick when he said it – I was so happy they were closed and he didn’t see in but I actually cannot bring myself to open them anymore).


Kiki – thanks for the tips, I took some photos today and will keep notes on everything from now on! :=)


Gloomendoom – I totally agree, but I think he has been like it all his life, possibly he has just got worse with age :=) I think he has been using his tactics for a long time.


Noctu – thanks for this, will look into the film :=)


Saint Chris – oh wow, sounds like you may live next door to his twin!! :-0 :=) Jokes aside, that is awful, glad you managed to stop him. How did you find out about him doing it?



Gozaimasu – Totally agree about his son, he should also have known better. However, having seen them together a few times, you can tell he is downtrodden and he literally will do anything he is told to do because it’s ‘easier’ than questioning it (I am not defending him but I can see how it happens). Unfortunately my neighbour knows everything about everything and is always right and therefore has the ability to grind to people down very easily.

DaveTheMus

goonarmy wrote: »

Then you are an idiot. But its ok for me to say that. I fought in the war.

What can I say apart from....:T:T

marisco_2

DaveTheMus wrote: »

If you take the time to read my initial post on the subject, it includes the word probably.

What has it got to do with him invading the OP's privacy?

Thankfully I'm not restricted by simple linear avenues of thought. If he lived next door to me I would forgive any 'invasions', solely based on what he and his entire generation sacrificed to ensure that we remained a free and democratic country.

However I do understand this is a serious issue of broken branches and cross words so I don't expect many people to turn the other cheek.

Are you OPs neighbour? You just seem a little too keen and eager to defend his atrocious behaviour, for someone apparently not connected to all the unhappiness and discord the OP is suffering.