nasty old man next door :-(

globetraveller

Just_Plain_Jane wrote: »

How do you know he wasn't in a reserved occupation? Or a conscientious objector? Or exempt from conscription on medical grounds?

What has any of this got to do with him invading OP's privacy?

He could of course have expertise on laying explosives . (Smilies not working for me today btw). I love how this has gone from being a thread about a nasty old man to a war hero. But perhaps you even have a nobel peace prize nominee living next door to you?
On a serious note- I would have your camera nearby your window and take photos if he gets up to anything.

Gloomendoom

jellie wrote: »

Unless it's in his deeds, I don't think he can be required to fix the fence whether he put it up or not (unless it's causing damage or danger). He'll probably be required to maintain that boundary, but that could be by a couple of posts and some wire

I'm surprised it's taken this long for somebody to point this out. If he needs to maintain a specific type of fence on the boundary it will be in his deeds. Usually though, a homeowner is just required to maintain the boundary. A line of stones would do the job.

If the OP wants a fence and the neighbour doesn't, then it's up to the OP to erect one. There is unlikely to be any legal obligation on the part of the neighbour to erect one.

Georgiegirl256

DKLS wrote: »

He is a bully so treat him like one, at the next opportunity sneer at him the following words : aren't you dead yet?

From the sounds of it, the OP appears to have better manners than you.

The neighbour might be being a disrespectful PITA, but to say things like that to anyone shows more about your character than it does about anyone else's.

krlyr

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I'm surprised it's taken this long for somebody to point this out. If he needs to maintain a specific type of fence on the boundary it will be in his deeds. Usually though, a homeowner is just required to maintain the boundary. A line of stones would do the job.

If the OP wants a fence and the neighbour doesn't, then it's up to the OP to erect one. There is unlikely to be any legal obligation on the part of the neighbour to erect one.

I didn't mention it because a) OP mentions that they want to put their own fence up when they can afford it, b) it was the neighbour who wanted to do the repairs to his fence, and c) it doesn't sound like OP's real issue is with his lack of repairing his fence, but more with his wandering in and out of their gardens, chopping back their plants and so on.

DaveTheMus

Just_Plain_Jane wrote: »

How do you know he wasn't in a reserved occupation? Or a conscientious objector? Or exempt from conscription on medical grounds?

What has any of this got to do with him invading OP's privacy?

If you take the time to read my initial post on the subject, it includes the word probably.

What has it got to do with him invading the OP's privacy?

Thankfully I'm not restricted by simple linear avenues of thought. If he lived next door to me I would forgive any 'invasions', solely based on what he and his entire generation sacrificed to ensure that we remained a free and democratic country.

However I do understand this is a serious issue of broken branches and cross words so I don't expect many people to turn the other cheek.

Just_Plain_Jane

DaveTheMus wrote: »

If he lived next door to me I would forgive any 'invasions', solely based on what he and his entire generation sacrificed to ensure that we remained a free and democratic country.

Yes of course you would dear. But he doesn't does he?

Mojisola

GobbledyGook wrote: »

For all anyone on the thread knows the guy might have been one of those who fled and hid during WWII. Or he could have had a protected industry. Or he could have had had a condition or illness that meant he didn't take part.

My Grandfather fought in WWII, like so many, and still managed to be a polite and respectful man as well.

Exactly - or he could have been a black-marketer or a looter of bombed-out homes and businesses!

My Dad was like your Grandfather - he would have been horrified at the idea that bad behaviour should be ignored because someone was a certain age, even if they did have an honourable war record.

KiKi

OP, some advice often given on the employment forum:

Every time something happens, don't say a word. No anger, nothing. Calmly take a pen and paper and stand there in front of them, and make notes. Date, time, and what's happening. Take a photo. Don't say a word.

If they ask you what you're doing, you simply say "I've been advised to keep records". If they ask by whom, you don't answer. Simply walk away.

And speak to your PCSO.

Gloomendoom

I'm in two minds here. I hate inconsiderate behaviour but some people do go a bit odd when they get older. It is not something that they have any control over.

Noctu

Another suggestion for increasing your privacy at your windows - try the one way window film. Cheap off eBay and allows you to see out whilst anyone outside just sees a reflection!
Doesn't work when it gets dark though.
We have it in our study - works a treat.