nasty old man next door :-(

lostinrates

DaveTheMus wrote: »

Fighting in World War II is more courageous and selfless act than anything anyone on this thread has ever done.

Without people like this guy, we would be communicating in German.
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Its Not THAT unfortunate a language. My cousins by marriage are German and it sounds very pretty when they speak it.





Op, I'd put the fence up inside my boundary. High as allowed and solid. Otherwise I'd keep communication to a tight smile. I also agree with recording all transgressions at letting him be aware of that.

adouglasmhor

DaveTheMus wrote: »

If you take the time to read my initial post on the subject, it includes the word probably.

What has it got to do with him invading the OP's privacy?

Thankfully I'm not restricted by simple linear avenues of thought. If he lived next door to me I would forgive any 'invasions', solely based on what he and his entire generation sacrificed to ensure that we remained a free and democratic country.

However I do understand this is a serious issue of broken branches and cross words so I don't expect many people to turn the other cheek.

Surely that would defeat the object of their struggle for our way of life and a better world?

jee

OP- put a 6 foot fence up and on the day you do it don't engage in any conversation with the neighbour. If he shouts at your visitors about the car parking knock on his door and calmly ask him to call the police if he wants the car moved. This sends a pretty clear message.
Also the old man is annoying yes but he's not that awful. Most people (including me) put up with much worse from neighbours.
Also as pointed out by a couple of other posts he is an old man won't be around for much longer so you don't want to be seen by other neighbours as bullies yourselves.

dandelionclock30

I would get the fence up, not engage with him at all like the person above says. If he carries on and hassels your relatives then I would just call the police end of story.
If any of his family come into your garden then I would phone the police and tell them immediatley. I think he will get the message.
It sounds like he may have some type of mental health problem or dementia going on to be as bad as this.

pimento

ska_lover wrote: »

6 foot fencing is going up this weekend

What is that saying, 'Good fences make good neighbours'?

dandelionclock30

I think its probably saying stay away from my property and stop looking in etc.

krazyburd23

Thank you all for your help and advice, it’s all very useful and I am following up on it. I really appreciate your support and thanks for taking the time to listen.

I just wanted to say again, that I genuinely hand on heart do not believe he is a war hero. I honestly think he has always been a horrible person. He is a know it all who has no ability to understand that others have their own minds and thoughts. I know from one of my other neighbours that he doesn’t get on with the old lady opposite him, I was told ‘he was really nasty to her when her husband died’. I do not know any of the circumstances (I didn’t ask ) but I have seen her walk right past him and blank him completely, so I believe it.

Dave – I really do appreciate your opinion, however I am quite offended that you think it’s ‘ridiculous, almost comical’ that he is upsetting me. It may just be a few broken branches to you, but it isn’t to me. This is this is my home, my garden and my life and I should be free to go about it in and enjoy it in my own way. Me and my family were cooped up in a tiny flat for 10 years whilst we scrimped and saved to get a deposit together to have our own little place, to have my own garden is such a wonderful treat for me. I am always interested to hear other people’s views and advice but it’s my choice if I take it and follow up with it. I came on here to get some help and advice on how to deal with the matter – I have always been taught to respect my elders so knowing how to deal with someone like him is a new challenge to me. Despite all he has done to us, I don’t want to upset him or cause him stress because he is an old man (whether he was or wasnt in the war) and I know his time is probably limited. I just don’t want anything more to do with him and want him to simply leave us and our property alone but no matter how much I tell him to back off he just cannot help himself. I actually typed PCSO number into my phone hours ago but cannot bring myself to press ‘call’ – I just can’t help thinking that if he gets a visit from him it will be really distressing for him.

On the one occasion I said they could enter my garden to fix the fence, I said to him please be careful near the pear tree as I just planted my strawberries there for next year. He roared with laughter, and said ‘why have you done that, I threw mine away’. I have no problem with him finding it amusing, I don’t mind if he threw his away - that’s his choice, I have my own mind, I don’t have to follow. How do you think I felt when I saw they had all been trodden into the mud? This to me isn't just disrespectful, its spiteful.


I don’t particularly like his garden but I don’t pop in there when he is out and change things. He already told me my washing line isn’t in the ‘right place’, will it be OK for him to come over and move it next time I pop to the shops?? I think not!

mrcow

pimento wrote: »

What is that saying, 'Good fences make good neighbours'?

Or in some cases, "High fences make good neighbours"!

jee

I don’t particularly like his garden but I don’t pop in there when he is out and change things. He already told me my washing line isn’t in the ‘right place’, will it be OK for him to come over and move it next time I pop to the shops?? I think not!

:rotfl:at least he asks. My neighbour just does it and I come back to find the improvement

andygb

Krazyburd he sounds a nasty piece of work, and I would be pretty livid if someone had behaved like that to my mother.
I think the fences have to go up ASAP, and if there is a repeat of the verbal abuse then the police have to be notified.
We used to have a particularly nasty neighbour, who was spiteful and destructive, fortunately they have both gone and things are much better.
Strangely enough, he was a bit like your neighbour, gossipping about the other people in the street, saying that one was a prostitute, another an alcoholic. He used to check up on all the cars in the road - walking along in broad daylight with a notebook, checking tax discs.
He also got angry and abusive with people who parked on the road outside his house, and vandalised a couple of cars.
I eventually had to call the police, and they sorted him out, and surprisingly other neighbours came forward and thanked me for doing it.