If I don't move, he will leave me....

Norma_Desmond

There was once a bit of a scuffle at the Gardening Club AGM in our village.......

onlyroz

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I'm sorry but where on earth is the countryside noisy? I only ever hear the faint trotting of deer.

We get the Broadmoor sirens every Tuesday morning at 10 AM

minerva_windsong

Genuine question, but why are people so critical of people choosing to raise kids in London? I appreciate it's not the easiest (especially if you have to rely on public transport and have to cart buggies/small people on and off trains and buses), but there are really good parks and loads of activities and if you're not right in the centre of town in my experience it's no dirtier than your average street. Plus I've felt safer here a lot of the time than I have when I lived in rural Lancashire. Obviously where you choose to bring up your kids is up to you, but personally I don't think there's anything particularly awful about raising a family in London.

Tiglath

freeisgood wrote: »

I think I am going to check out the areas directly around Hertford and Ware, does anyone know anything about them? Are they safe?

Not really a recommendation but I read somewhere recently that Ware is a major p0rnwatcher hub It's a pretty town, or it was when I was growing up; a lot of my family lived there. I've got colleagues who commute from Hertford into the City - I'd say it's a better bet than Ware. More going on.

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Opening the window to double check the countryside noise, I can hear the dull background noise of the M25, the wind and some birds.

Smell wise: i can tell someone round the corner has their coal fire going

BitterAndTwisted

Living in London with young children is relatively easy. It's once they have to go to secondary schools is when things can get much more difficult.

Personally, I think you should show willing and set aside time on the weekends to see what sort of places he might be interested in moving you all to. I can't think of a single down-side where your children might be concerned, bar buying somewhere up in the Lake District! I suspect he may have chosen that area on purpose, not that he's considering it seriously. Given the choice of up there I'd be thinking of Penrith/Middleton-in-Teesdale. Bliss!

freeisgood

Had another heart to heart with hubby, he is not living in London no matter what. 100%

He said it is not a threat, as I can stay in London with the kids if I so wish.

I mentioned Hertford, he is disappointed as that is too near London. He wants us to try the Chilterns, Goodness knows what the commute to crouch end area is like. I would have to do that 3 or 4 days per week. I am prepared to move. But very worried about it.

Prothet_of_Doom

You know what? You've really got to think (to believe) that the UK is a big place and there are so many places other than London that would be nicer.

What you both should do is be honest about what you both want, and find somewhere that meets both your needs.

Let me start by saying that refusal to discuss it, has led your husband to the shock ultimatum.

That said I moved my wife to the REAL back of beyond in the Yorkshire Dales, away from family and friends and we both hated it in the end.

thorsoak

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I'm sorry but where on earth is the countryside noisy? I only ever hear the faint trotting of deer.

The noise of chain saws rattle the silence at times; as does the racket made by agricultural machinery - farms are now industrial areas!

Prothet_of_Doom

minerva_windsong wrote: »

Genuine question, but why are people so critical of people choosing to raise kids in London? I appreciate it's not the easiest (especially if you have to rely on public transport and have to cart buggies/small people on and off trains and buses), but there are really good parks and loads of activities and if you're not right in the centre of town in my experience it's no dirtier than your average street. Plus I've felt safer here a lot of the time than I have when I lived in rural Lancashire. Obviously where you choose to bring up your kids is up to you, but personally I don't think there's anything particularly awful about raising a family in London.

I'll say one thing, is that parents in Cities are less nieve about the dangers that teenagers are likely to be tempted by. In Settle, there's a reasonable likelyhood that drugs are being sold in the market square to 15 year olds in Daylight, and all the parents think that because they live in a nice place it doesn't happen. Plus Try and walk a frisky dog off the lead on the Moors. It'll chase after a sheep and get shot by a farmer.