If I don't move, he will leave me....

neon_dannii

daisiegg wrote: »

We live in Hertfordshire - 30 mins from Liverpool St and 15 mins from a tube station. It is great. Outstanding schools, lovely villages and countryside, but definitely close enough to London. My husband commutes to the City and we frequently go into town for days or evenings out.

I suppose my point is....have you actually been to and looked at these places your husband is interested in? It is a really difficult situation, but have you given his suggestion a proper chance?

We must practically live in the same area!

As above, I live in Hertfordshire but can get into Oxford Street/Liverpool Street in 30 mins. Moving further out doesn't necessarily mean that you won't be able to visit galleries and wander around London. As long as there's decent train transport it's very easy. My OH lives in north Bedfordshire and even then it's only 30 mins by train into Euston!

comeandgo

Have you ever lived anywhere other than a city? It sounds as though you are putting a lot of negativity for something you have never tried. As for your children not wanting to move, they are very young, they will adapt but at the moment they will be taking their cue from you. Your husband is precious and lived in a place he has hated for years. Maybe time for you to try and repay him.

suki1964

Ha, I moved over five hundred miles from sw London to the middle of nowhere on the NE Coast of NIreland

I gave up my terrace house with everything on the doorstep for a detached house on the edge of a farm

Nearest shop is four miles away

And I love it

Yes for years I held my ground refusing to move out of London thinking I'd hate it, be lonely etc. But the truth is we are now part of a real community where we have made more real friends in the short time we have been here then we ever had in London ok so we don't have restaurants, takeaways,theatres, art galleries etc on our doorstep, but there is something happening every week. My mum who is 76 and moved with us is out the house more then she's in with the hectic social life she has built here

And hubby commutes to london for work still

The country isn't so scary. It takes a while to get used to if you have been a city girl all your life, very frustrating at times. But for us our quality of life is so much better and we are much happier

Norma_Desmond

daisiegg wrote: »

You know a detached house does not need to be completely isolated!

Ours is!

The OP can be thankful that her DH 'just' wants to move into the wild, forbidding, remote county that is Hertfordshire.

I thought I'd never say it, but a weekend cottage may well be the best way to go.

seven-day-weekend

freeisgood wrote: »

Julie, Harsh!


We were living in london, because of circumstances with our families, not because of me.

He has been living in london all his life so far.

He has grown to hate it over this last few years.

My kids dont want to move either

If your children are young (you said one of them was only four), then I don't see why it's anything to do with them. They will live where their parents say.

Why don't you go and look at some houses with him? You might be pleasantly surprised.

Okydoky25

Having moved out of London where I grew up a few years before having my children I can honestly say it was the best decision I ever made. Looking back there is no way I would want my children growing up there.

Buzzybee90

Your children would have a much better life in the country, than in London.

I feel dirty even thinking about it, eww!

freeisgood

I think I am going to check out the areas directly around Hertford and Ware, does anyone know anything about them? Are they safe? We drive though them quite often but I don't know what they are really like.



(Husband is in the other room looking at cottages for "him" in the lake district...what can I say)

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Checkout Hitchin, St Albans, Berkhemsted and Rickmansworth too.. or are you chasing the A1 ? We're in Bricket wood (between St Albans and Watford)

How 'middle of knowhere' does he want?

Buzzybee90

freeisgood wrote: »

I think I am going to check out the areas directly around Hertford and Ware, does anyone know anything about them? Are they safe? We drive though them quite often but I don't know what they are really like.



(Husband is in the other room looking at cottages for "him" in the lake district...what can I say)

Why are neither of you at work?