Am I being silly?

paulineb_2

MrsE wrote: »

Support being the operative word. Discussion Time is for the cut & thrust of veral sparing.
This is a family help board, not a discussion board. The OP is asking for help, advice & perspective not a debate, if she'd wanted a debate she'd have put it on a debate board;)

Who exactly can help with this situation?

The daughter has chosen the name. She asked a question am I being silly?

Some people think she is, others don't.

Also, I've not seen you challenge the comments the op has made to other posters.

My view is, the op can more than deal with any comments that come her way, she doesn't need anyone fighting her corner.

paulineb_2

There are threads on this board that are well over 5 pages long.

MrsE_2

paulineb wrote: »

But by throwing comments out like bullying, cliques, gangs, withoit naming people and referring to people who like certain posts as something that rhymes with bankers, do you really think name calling other posters is helpful and going to make the situation any better?

I don't.

If the poster feels its aimed at their behaviour it might make them stop & realise this is not just t'internet, we are all real people & people posting on the family board are often upset in their home life.

MrsE_2

paulineb wrote: »

There are threads on this board that are well over 5 pages long.

Of course, but its usually not people queuing up to labour the same telling off to one person.

balletshoes

MrsE wrote: »

I think 5 pages is plenty.

weren't some of those 5 pages you taking umbrage at other posters though - ie nothing to do with the subject or replying to the OP?


Her opening post & question was "am I being silly".

yep - along with "before I open my big mouth" or something along those lines.

Well done MrsE - we're now completely off-topic .

Person_one

MrsE wrote: »

I think 5 pages is plenty.

Maybe you could start your own forum, then you can moderate it however you think is appropriate.

paulineb_2

I've actually got better things to do with my life than bully or cyber bully anyone.

I really hope that people can differentiate between having a difference of opinion and bullying. The bullying I went through over a long period of time made me ill and had a massive effect on my life.

Someone challenging me on a thread wouldn't. I know the difference.

What's the point of having an honest discussion if people need to tiptoe round one another for fear of being called a cyber bully.

Or a something that rhymes with banker if you thank a post that someone else doesn't like?

MrsE_2

balletshoes wrote: »

yep - along with "before I open my big mouth" or something along those lines.

Well done MrsE - we're now completely off-topic .

Well its better than the previous topic.

balletshoes

MrsE wrote: »

Well its better than the previous topic.

.... in your opinion.

paulineb_2

MrsE wrote: »

If the poster feels its aimed at their behaviour it might make them stop & realise this is not just t'internet, we are all real people & people posting on the family board are often upset in their home life.

And that's something every single one of us needs to consider when we start a thread. Are we strong enough to deal with the disagreements.

I'm sure plenty people on the forums go through tough times. But that shouldn't mean we only tell people what they want to hear.

If you do, the thread serves nil purpose anyway.