Am I being silly?

Ms_Chocaholic

Looking at it from another perspective, when I had my son I didn't name him after any family members at all; they all had hideous names. Therefore his middle name was something we chose that went well with his first name.

When I told my parents of his name, my mother said "and who's ***** (referring to his second name) - you can't win!!!!!

totallybored

paulineb wrote: »

I didn't actually realise that my name was of a particular generation

I actually hardly know any other Pauline's . Two I knew from school, one younger than me and one older and not met any since.

Oops, knew I'd offend someone! I tend to associate names like that with my mum's generation. They're not traditional old names, they were just normal names in their day. I've known a couple of Paulines, all over 50 now. And Pauline Fowler of course.

MrsE_2

paulineb wrote: »

I've been bullied in real life to the point that it made me seriously unwell.

I suggest anyone who thinks this thread is bullying needs to get a grip.

The op has responded to posts she wasn't happy about and made her feelings known.

Do people think it's any better to start name calling and suggesting that people who thank a post are something that rhymes with bankers?

Big deal. I've been called more names in times of said bullying than many people will in a lifetime.

This board is now getting ridiculous. People jumping on a white charger to defend people who are capable of defending themselves.

The above post is not helpful, it's just flaming for the sake of it as far as I'm concerned.

I'm not prepared to keep quite while people queue up to repeatedly labour the same thing to one person.
Its cyber bullying & there is far too much of it on a help website:(

balletshoes

totallybored wrote: »

Oops, knew I'd offend someone! I tend to associate names like that with my mum's generation. They're not traditional old names, they were just normal names in their day. I've known a couple of Paulines, all over 50 now. And Pauline Fowler of course.

true - I don't know any Paulines younger than my generation (40s).

paulineb_2

I'm not part of any gang or any clique on here. I don't know any people offline.

If I have something to say I'll say it. If I want to thank a post I'll thank it.

That doesn't make me or anyone else a bully, or part of a clique.

Tell you what, let's all tiptoe round one another, wrap everyone up in cotton wool and just got there there.

Perspective. It should not matter a hoot what the kid is called as long as it's loved and healthy.

And maybe if there are issues with the other gran, this is the time to try and sort them out.

Also, there is nothing worse than getting information fed to you on a drip drop basis, and then being told, oh there's other issues with the other gran, but I'm not telling you them.

What's the point of asking for support when you don't want to say what's wrong?

balletshoes

MrsE wrote: »

I'm not prepared to keep quite while people queue up to repeatedly labour the same thing to one person.
Its cyber bullying & there is far too much of it on a help website:(

so is there a requisite number of posters who, in your opinion, can give their opinion in a post reply, before its bullying and "queueing up to repeatedly labour" the same thing?

The diifference between spoken conversation, and written forums, is that there is a completely different flow to each of them. In conversation, because it flows, it moves on from one point to another. In written forums (and I do this myself at times) I read the OP and reply to that, and then read the rest of the posts. I sometimes also reply to a particular post as I'm reading through a thread, without reading to the end of the thread, so its entirely possible that my post will echo another.

Am I in a clique? I don't know anyone on this board, and I don't follow posters around, I have 2 or 3 boards on this website I frequent, and I post when I see fit. I think most of us do, don't we?

The OP knows, and has admitted in subsequent posts, that she is being silly, and she's not going to say anything to her DD about the baby's name - but thats not the impression she gave in her first post.

paulineb_2

totallybored wrote: »

Oops, knew I'd offend someone! I tend to associate names like that with my mum's generation. They're not traditional old names, they were just normal names in their day. I've known a couple of Paulines, all over 50 now. And Pauline Fowler of course.

You didn't offend me. I'm not over 50 btw and I know some Pauline's younger than I am.

My mum actually chose my name from the title of a book. I was 3 months premature and she didn't have a name picked.

I wasn't offended by your post, I just wondered why you thought Pauline was an older name, no more than that.

As far as I'm concerned people can call their kids what they like, I actually like my name, plenty names out there I'd have been less happy to have been called.

MrsE_2

paulineb wrote: »

I'm not part of any gang or any clique on here. I don't know any people offline.

If I have something to say I'll say it. If I want to thank a post I'll thank it.

That doesn't make me or anyone else a bully, or part of a clique.

Tell you what, let's all tiptoe round one another, wrap everyone up in cotton wool and just got there there.

Perspective. It should not matter a hoot what the kid is called as long as it's loved and healthy.

And maybe if there are issues with the other gran, this is the time to try and sort them out.

Also, there is nothing worse than getting information fed to you on a drip drop basis, and then being told, oh there's other issues with the other gran, but I'm not telling you them.

What's the point of asking for support when you don't want to say what's wrong?

Support being the operative word. Discussion Time is for the cut & thrust of veral sparing.
This is a family help board, not a discussion board. The OP is asking for help, advice & perspective not a debate, if she'd wanted a debate she'd have put it on a debate board;)

paulineb_2

MrsE wrote: »

I'm not prepared to keep quite while people queue up to repeatedly labour the same thing to one person.
Its cyber bullying & there is far too much of it on a help website:(

But by throwing comments out like bullying, cliques, gangs, withoit naming people and referring to people who like certain posts as something that rhymes with bankers, do you really think name calling other posters is helpful and going to make the situation any better?

I don't.

MrsE_2

balletshoes wrote: »

so is there a requisite number of posters who, in your opinion, can give their opinion in a post reply, before its bullying and "queueing up to repeatedly labour" the same thing?

I think 5 pages is plenty.

balletshoes wrote: »

The OP knows, and has admitted in subsequent posts, that she is being silly, and she's not going to say anything to her DD about the baby's name - but thats not the impression she gave in her first post.

Her opening post & question was "am I being silly".