Am I being silly?

Sir_Pac

debsue wrote: »

Just need some opinions before I open my big mouth! Both my daughters are pregnant and I will become a nanna for the first and second time this year. I am really excited and very proud of both my girls.

My eldest daughter has found out this week that she is having a girl, They have chosen a very pretty first name, however the second name will be her partners mothers name. Now I am really hurt, I do not want them to name this baby (or any baby) after me, but I feel in a way that I am being snubbed.

Is it just me or would you feel the same?

In my opinion, unless it was their intention to snub you, then you've got nothing to feel bad about. My grandson calls me mate (my granddaughter has started calling me mate too , one of her first words apparently ) .

You should only ever feel hurt, or angry if there was 'intent' to hurt or anger you, otherwise, its just a wasted emotion.

If no offense was meant, then none should be taken.

MrsE_2

paulineb wrote: »

I've actually got better things to do with my life than bully or cyber bully anyone.

I really hope that people can differentiate between having a difference of opinion and bullying. The bullying I went through over a long period of time made me ill and had a massive effect on my life.

Someone challenging me on a thread wouldn't. I know the difference.

What's the point of having an honest discussion if people need to tiptoe round one another for fear of being called a cyber bully.

Or a something that rhymes with banker if you thank a post that someone else doesn't like?

Pauline, I wouldn't dream of suggesting you're a bully.

MrsE_2

paulineb wrote: »

And that's something every single one of us needs to consider when we start a thread. Are we strong enough to deal with the disagreements.

I'm sure plenty people on the forums go through tough times. But that shouldn't mean we only tell people what they want to hear.

If you do, the thread serves nil purpose anyway.

So if people ardnt strong enough they shouldn't post for help on MSE?
MSE help boards are there for people when they need help, otherwise they are not help boards, they are discussion boards -all of them.

Person_one

MrsE wrote: »

So if people ardnt strong enough they shouldn't post for help on MSE?
MSE help boards are there for people when they need help, otherwise they are not help boards, they are discussion boards -all of them.

Oh come on now, stop being grumpy and ridiculous.

When people are genuinely struggling and fragile, the posters on this board are amazing. Ask Tayforth, ask GobbledyGook, ask Mooloo, ask any of the women on the miscarriage thread.

Yes, we can be a bit irreverent and a bit blunt when someone comes along who's being a bit silly, or selfish, or thoughtless. So what?

You've had a couple of threads now in DT and the arms where you've come across as being supremely irked that most people were disagreeing with you and getting really shirty with them, perhaps that's affecting your mood on the boards?

j.e.j.

Person_one wrote: »

I'm essentially just paraphrasing.

But its ok, I know you're not exactly my biggest fan!

:rotfl: Do you come on here to get fans?
It's only an internet forum


But yes, for what it's worth I think you are out of order.

Person_one

j.e.j. wrote: »

:rotfl: Do you come on here to get fans?
It's only an internet forum


But yes, for what it's worth I think you are out of order.

If I did I wouldn't be doing a very good job!

poet123

You and me both!!

Georgiegirl256

MrsE wrote: »

There's only so many ways she needs to be told she's a selfish idiot,

that's actually a new one that's been added into the mix. I think you'll find that the OP asked if she was being silly, and a lot of people told her she was, she did after all ask for opinions. No one called get a selfish idiot....until now ^^^

Give it a rest springs to mind.

that's exactly what I think when I read your posts, I'm sorry if that's blunt, but I really do, you don't half go on about a certain point.
-)

The thread was actually tootling along quite nicely until post 72....

balletshoes

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

The thread was actually tootling along quite nicely until post 72....

i think there have been some posts deleted - post 69 appears to be the one that was previously post 72?

poet123

I do think some of the comments towards the OP have been a bit harsh. Yes, she might be being silly, but that is quite subjective, I am sure there are occasions when all of us have taken something to heart and stewed over it when others wouldn't have reacted the same way. I know I have.

I thought this board was for measured, understanding posts not cutting retort. I don't think she has been bullied but I do think some people have been unkind and insensitive. I think that is, in part, due to the demographic on the site, it seems to be populated by many who have issues with their own mothers or their MIL's and so often can only see posts from their own perspective, or from the perspective of a woman of the OP's daughters age group.

The op feels slighted, upset, hurt, out of favour, because her daughter chose to give her first child her husband's mother's name. They may have their reasons, they don't need any reasons, but regardless, the OP feels all of the above. I can see why that might be.

Should she get over it? Absolutely, should she mention it? Absolutely not.