The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

lauraw82

Sounds good Choc, fingers crossed for Wednesday!

Code, he has since apologised(!), I think he is worried about being able to perform cos work is stressing him a lot. I have told him I had my scan on Thursday, rather than Tuesday coming, so hopefully if he thinks there's no pressure to perform he might be a bit more willing! Am I a bad wife?!

Floaty

Thanks Choc

TMI alert... Know what you all mean about dtd and the changes that happen when things become more goal orientated. One thing that I find helps (and I hope DH does too) is to remove that sometimes. I.e. fooling about that doesn't involve TTC. It took me a while to get past feeling like it was a wasted opportunity to actually seeing it as a healthy way of enjoying ourselves to keep ourselves from getting too fixated.

Anyway, the !!!!!! was very straightforward and our next steps are to book a coordination appt for a FET. We'll be doing a medicated cycle (eek, 1st time down-regging) and allowed to transfer both. As it's our last NHS go I think we will transfer both our frozen blastos, if they survive the thaw..

Another sad effect of IF last night though! A discussion about dates for the FET led me to inadvertently give away one of DH's 40th birthday surprises! I wasn't even tipsy! Am very cross with myself Blooming IVF's fault...

Hope you're all well xxx

chocoholic_chick

Afternoon ladies

Hope you're all having a nice weekend so far. Have to admit I've not felt up to doing much other than lounging around and sleeping

I'm taking my last dose of Gonal F tonight so now Wednesday can't come quick enough. Have managed OK up until the last few days, but now I'm feeling really tired, bloated and uncomfortable and haven't got much of an appetite as I keep feeling sick. I'm starting to worry more about OHSS, it's clearly what they're worried about at the hospital but no-one mentioned it to me, I've just worked it out from the fact they're stopping my Stimms tonight and giving me a lower dose of pregnyl.

skaps

Hi all
My AF finally came yesterday after the chemical. For some reason before this happened I had sore breasts as well as twinges every day. My body keeps playing these awful tricks on me and giving me this hope.

Hope everyone is enjoying the long weekend.

skaps

I have been a misery guts for the last two days and need to snap out of it. Just don't know how to going away on Wednesday which will hopefully (even though it was booked as the last holiday until after the baby would have come) sorry ladies don't want to bring u down too. Am thinking of going to counseling but feel like it will just irritate me more. Has anyone had any experience of this?

chocoholic_chick

Skaps - Sorry you're feeling so low at the moment. Have a lovely break though, sounds like just the thing you need. As for counselling I've been for it before, not for this specific issue, and found it really helped. It's sometimes difficult to open up fully to the people we're close to for fear of hurting their feelings, so having a "stranger" to talk to and be honest with helps.

Well I'm now officially terrified about tomorrow, not about the procedure, but that I've gone through all this for nothing. I'm panicking I've ovulated early, or that there won't be any good eggs, or that they won't fertilize. I'd felt completely calm about everything up to now. I had a right carry on sorting out the trigger shot last night, trying to break the weird glass thing and not have it spill/shatter and got all upset because instead of taking it at 8pm it ended up being 8.07pm because I was shaking so much and so thought I'd messed everything up. I'd think that 7 minutes wouldn't make a huge difference though? I dunno, I just feel like I've messed things up now.

Floaty

Oh Skaps, you poor thing. My heart is absolutely going out to you right now. No advice from me about counselling, but I hope your holiday away does you the power of good. Where are you off to?

Choc, that's come around quickly! Exciting. While I read your post I was thinking about what makes it easier, but in truth nothing really does if you're the sort of personality (like me!) that worries a lot. However, you are very nearly at the stage where things are totally out of your hands (out of your body entirely!). Personally, I found the few days when our embryos were in the lab quite calm. Sure, waiting for the embryologist's phone calls is like torture, but there's nothing you can do at this stage.

After ET things become harder again, as it can feel like you've got control again. It's important to keep reminding yourself that you've done the hard work already, and what happens from now is largely down to luck. Give yourself a break (easier said than done, I know) and go with the flow. 7 minutes last night won't have had any effect at all!! Look after yourself xx

AFM, I've booked us in for our co-ordination appointment on 8th May. Could have gone in a bit earlier but my cycle dates mean there's no point. Now I can relax a bit, enjoy our holiday at the end of the month, and try to lose a bit of weight. I put on about half a stone over our failed IVF cycle, which needs to come off again! After the appt, we'll have some tricky decisions to make about when to start our FET cycle.

Has anyone else here done a medicated FET and can let me know a rough timeline? Thank you very much.

Hugs to all xx

skaps

Hi all
feeling much better now. AF was only 2 days and it was weird as I felt like I had ovulation pains yday after it had finished.
I'm off to Turkey today.

Good luck to all the ladies going through ivf. Will catch up with you in a week.

TamVilla80

Have a lovely holibobs Skaps!

tea_lover

Hope you're getting on ok today choc x.