The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

nightsky224

So it's been a hectic few weeks. The abdominal pain I have been having may actually be scar tissue from an appendectomy! But they are sending me for a bladder ultrasound just incase.

I was also having a really long cycle I had tested negative but 36 days in to my cycle (Friday) I bought another test and got a BFP!!!!

I can't quite believe it yet!

I have only posted on hear a little bit but have been reading for ages and i found it so supportive to know that I wasn't alone.

I could say all the patronising things now but instead I'll just say good luck and thank you for all the silly stories and comments that kept me smiling x

codemonkey

Congratulations nightaky.:j

Speaking of the patronising things people say, 2 of my middle aged colleagues and I were having a chat. One of them is a granny and was saying that she hopes her next grandchild is a girl and that she'll tell that to her daughter. Then followed a conversation about her other daughter who desperately wants another baby but its not happening (from earlier conversations, they struggled to conceive their first). Anyway fhe next part of the conversation went like this:

Granny: I've told her to relax. She needs to relax. I tell her this all the time.
Me: Oh my god! Don't ever say that to her again!
Other woman: Why? I don't understand how this feels. All I had to do was be in the same room as a guy and I got pregnant.
Me (thinking, you guys know that we can't have kids): For goodness sake. The most annoying thing you can say to someone is 'Just relax'. Its not all that easy. Followed by 'oooh I'm so very fertile'.
Granny: But she already has one.
Me: Arrrgh.

nightsky224

Wow!! What is wrong with some people ?

codemonkey wrote: »

Congratulations nightaky.:j

Speaking of the patronising things people say, 2 of my middle aged colleagues and I were having a chat. One of them is a granny and was saying that she hopes her next grandchild is a girl and that she'll tell that to her daughter. Then followed a conversation about her other daughter who desperately wants another baby but its not happening (from earlier conversations, they struggled to conceive their first). Anyway fhe next part of the conversation went like this:

Granny: I've told her to relax. She needs to relax. I tell her this all the time.
Me: Oh my god! Don't ever say that to her again!
Other woman: Why? I don't understand how this feels. All I had to do was be in the same room as a guy and I got pregnant.
Me (thinking, you guys know that we can't have kids): For goodness sake. The most annoying thing you can say to someone is 'Just relax'. Its not all that easy. Followed by 'oooh I'm so very fertile'.
Granny: But she already has one.
Me: Arrrgh.

ElephantLovesMe

Congratulationsnightsky great news :-) :-D

chocoholic_chick

Congratulations nightsky! Thats wonderful news xx

Code some people are just truly unbelievable, they just can't seem to comprehend how difficult it is for people who can't conceive. I've met so many people who said just relax, it'll happen, NO IT FLIPPING WELL WON'T!!!!

TamVilla80

Congrats Nightsky!






If relaxing actually worked, and I had done so every time I had relaxed, our house would be like the flippin' Waltons by now!




Had a rubbish day yesterday. Diet went out the window thanks to scrummy birthday cake from a work colleague, then I started watching that multiple births programme on ITV last night. Ruddy smug people going 'we were so surprised as we had only just started trying, and then we found out we were having twins' Poor them, had to go and stuff some jaffa cakes as I felt so sorry for them...

frozenpenguin

Congratulations nightsky! I'm happy to pop you into the graduates bit of the list whenever you feel ready xx

chocoholic - I'll add TMI into the list, hadn't thought of that one - thanks! How's the stimming going? xx

Elephant - thankfully the clinic are pretty good at keeping the baby pics, etc hidden (they do have photo albums but they're in a place you wouldn't go and look at). Tuesday will be here before you know it! xx

code - some people truly have no idea! Definitely sounds like a :wall: moment xx


Tam - Ahh I recorded that programme but haven't watched it yet. I did wonder whether to or not tbh, think I might just delete from the hard drive anyway. I don't really watch OBEM any more (not enough IVF stories) but did anyone else notice next week's episode claims to feature a couple who've been trying for 6 years?


tea - Say what? you mean people can actually make babies on their own? Surely not!? :rotfl: :eek:

Just thought of a few more acronyms as well - FWIW, TBH, AFM and IYSWIM - I'll add them to the list

Hope everyone's well (and possibly looking forward to a little bit of this :easter_ba next week) xxxx

frozenpenguin

IVF/ICSI/IUI/FET cycles currently ongoing

• chocoholic_chick: LP. DR injections (Buserelin) 2/3. Scan 24/3. Stims 25/3.
• frozenpenguin: Medicated FET. Provera 17/3. DR sniffer (Buserelin) 19/3.

Ovulation induction
cwtw: Three rounds of ovulation induction by injections
lauraw82: Appointment 12/11, Clomid for 4 cycles
Slinky_selina: Clomid, HSG 5/1, appointment and scans booked


Awaiting FS/other appointment or making alternative plans
159: Waiting for OH's tests
bigmomma051204: Appointment in November
choc-addict: Appointment early Nov, IVF Feb/Mar 2015
claretsgirl: Trying naturally
ElephantLovesMe: Appointment with FS 31/3
Fairy dust: IVF round 4, April 2015
Flee: ICSI
Floaty: Waiting for a date for the !!!!!! meeting at clinic
Gelly123: Blood tests for chromosome testing - clear
Goodvibes: ICSI 2=chemical. ICSI 3= 2015, follow up appointment Jan 2015
Harleyquinn2016: Trying naturally
Isla_red: Further treatment Jan 2015
lisawood78: Filling in forms for embryo adoption in Spain
lucyloves: IUI mid April
nightsky224: Trying naturally and waiting to see fertility specialist
pinkteapot: Trying naturally and considering options
Primmer: Adoption panel 19/11 - they said yes!
shrimpy_80: Referral in April, HSG 11/3 and ultrasound 14/3
TamVilla80: Metformin for 2 months then starting on Clomid
Think Pink: Trying the NTNP approach for 6 months
vesper: Referred for IVF


Team wonderbra (lovely and supportive aunties)
codemonkey
tea lover


Recent graduates

• emmaj30: IVF. Stims 18/1. EC 29/1. 1 x 5d ET 3/2. 16/2/15
• Wonder_Woman: IVF round #3 with immune meds. 2/2/15
• Clevernamehere: Natural 28/10/14
• jazz25: Clomid. 16/10/14
• Gettingthereslowly: Medicated FET. Oestrogen (Progynova). Scan 12/9. 2 x ET 17/9. 1/10/14
• Danielley: LP. DR (Buserelin injections) 4/6. Stims (Merionel) 29/6. EC 9/7, 16 eggs collected, 11 fertilised. 1x5d ET 14/7. 21/07/14
• Carrot34: Natural 19/07/14

chocoholic_chick

TamVilla - Sorry you had such a rubbish day, don't worry about the diet, it was just one day and you're allowed the odd day like that, it's not realistic to think we're going to go through the rest of our lives with no birthday cake or jaffa cakes! So don't dwell on it or beat yourself up over it

Frozenpenguin - It's going OK I think, don't feel any different or anything! But only had two injections so far.

Realised it's been 4 weeks since I had any alcohol, I think that might be the longest I've been without alcohol in my adult life!

Also found out that the hospital I'm at at for my treatment is the first in the region to use Embryoscope incubators which can apparently increase the success rate of IVF so that's something positive They did mention it a few weeks ago that they were trialling it and they might use that method with me, but it seems that all patients will be using this now so I'm guessing they were happy with the results.

TamVilla80

Thanks Choc - what if I had also just eaten half an Easter egg that has been sitting on my desk all week...?! (because I may have just eaten half an Easter egg...)


Good news on your incubator trial, that just sounds like it will help lots of little embies to get big and ready to go