The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

pinkteapot

ElephantLovesMe wrote: »

Now just to wait a week for our appt with the consultant, all very scary now, i left the clinic earlier feeling all sorts of emotions and all I did was sit on the comfy sofa and take in the surrounding and pretend to read a magazine while really I was just thinking so this is the fertility clinic and I am actually here.

Our IVF clinic gets me emotional just sitting in reception... Mainly because they have a massive arty thing on the wall saying "The odds may be against you but the results can be miraculous." :eek: Like we need reminding that the odds are cr*p.

ElephantLovesMe

pinkteapot I think it is just one of those emotional kind of places but having a picture like that cannot make it any better for you, a little inconsiderate if I'm honest. Although I have to say that I didn't notice any of those kind of pictures in our clinic reception/waiting area but there is a lovely clock on the wall on I was looking at.

Not sure I can say how I am feeling/felt when we left the clinic earlier and I guess things will become clearer and more relaxed next week when we go to see the consultant.

tea_lover

Ours had one of those collages of baby pictures. It was behind the nurses desk so not quite the first thing you saw when you walked in but not far off. I'm sure it was supposed to be encouraging but seriously..... not helpful!

ElephantLovesMe

Tealover deffinately not what you want to see in a place like that.

I thought the same thing about the leaflets I got sent through in our pack from the clinic with forms in, they all had pictures of babies, children and bumps. I said to my mum that it's not really something you want to see on the front of leaflets when you are recieving a pack from a fertility clinic!

chocoholic_chick

Frozen that list looks like it covers everything, only other one I can think of is TMI - To pre-warn people of too much information

Elephant the first time I went to the clinic I was the same, it is very overwhelming and makes it all seem more real, that you're actually going to have to go through all of that, its the realization that it's probably not going to happen naturally and it all becomes a bit more clinical. But the nurses at the unit I go to are all really lovely and put my mind it ease which helps.

In each of the little waiting rooms there's a book where people write down what they're their for, if it's been successful etc. and whenever I read it I can't help but get a bit teary, it's amazing how many people seem to have twins though :eek:

ElephantLovesMe

Chocoholic chick Everybody seemed lovely as they were talking to everyone around me this morning while I was waiting for the DH. And frozenpenguin tells me they are lovely there too. As you said I think it's more that everything becomes real when you have been there for the first even if (in my case) it was only for a SA for DH.

I'm sure the next week will fly by, during this week I need to fill out all the dreaded forms of what happens if one of us dies and if we donate for training etc etc.

The idea of the book sounds lovely but also very emotional too. I said to my DH that Id be happy with twins cause I am a little OCD and wouldn't want an odd number of children and have always wanted 4 but would settle for twins as he has 2 boys from a previous relationship which would make the end result 4. But of course I quite honestly would be happy just to have the chance of being able to have a child.

lauraw82

At our hospital they are very kind and have the fertility clinic separate to the antenatal clinic. We do however share a waiting room with the general gynae clinic, which is usually full of 80 year old ladies and issues of women's weekly!

Think my gut instinct was right, lots of abdo cramping and spotting, so predict AF will be here properly tomorrow. Which means my next cd12 will be Easter Sunday, not sure how the clinic will deal with that, scan will either have to be day 10 or day 15, I wonder if they will advise a month off due to this?

Hope everyone is ok xx

tea_lover

Laura, both my cycles ended up over Easter somehow. They were still open on the sat and Mon (though not Sunday, obv.) First EC was Easter Monday which seemed a v apt day for an egg hunt! Plus it was the only time the car park was bearable lol.

The only difference as I remember was that I got some drugs earlier, as the pharmacy wasn't open. That was only applicable for the first (funded) cycle though.

lauraw82

Thanks Tea, I think because its not an IVF centre they may just make me have a break. Don't really want to, as I had a break between these clomid cycles and had a cycle of nearly 7 weeks!

tea_lover

Ah sorry, assumed it was ivf. Tbh I assume everyone has ivf these days....I mean, how likely is it that you can make a whole new person just by chance?? Madness!:rotfl: