The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

vesper

As I kind of don't know what the hospital are going to say (though suspect its clomid after what they said last time) there's really not much we can do at the moment. Just eat sensibly over xmas, have got the wii out again so can get that going when I get a chance, and bought myself some new running trainers so am planning on trying to take that up again as right now can't afford spending out anymore on dancing or classes.
I just want to know what our next proper step is at the moment, but I suspect that if I don't lose enough weight by then they won't consider much.


Sorry I am a complete rocker. Been great fun being able to order some new camping stuff while its all in the sales at the moment.

tea_lover

So exciting Lisa!! Have absolutely everything crossed for you xx

Just had yet another argument with OH...what a surprise. Tried to talk to him about what to do next (ie. make a proper go of things or move out, as things staying as they are isn't an option). He's incapable of a normal conversation, and incapable of accepting any responsibility, everything is always someone else's fault. He then made a comment about my marriage (which ended many many years before I met him) and that was the final straw for me. Told him that was a really low blow, and that if he wanted to drag up the past we'd start with the years he constantly cheated on me.

Have had enough. Still had this idealistic notion that we could sort things out but I just want it over now. He can't even hold a civil conversation let alone a proper relationship. I really do think he has actual problems, it's like he has no feelings.

Now I just need to work out if there's any way I can keep my home...not looking good.

codemonkey

Sorry to hear that tea. Hugs.

vesper

Oh tea I am so sorry. I know how it feels when you just can't carry on, more than I can say so on here.


Is there somewhere you can go for a couple of weeks just to drum it into your OH that you will go? Or somewhere he can go? Often a trial separation apart from each other shows them just how much they are about to lose.

tea_lover

If it was just me I'd be at my parents' by now but I can't leave the cat. He stormed upstairs and I did think he might be packing but he might just be sulking.

ETA he just stormed out but he hasn't taken anything with him so looks like he's planning on coming back at some point.

Primmer

floaty- good luck for January, enjoy the Christmas festivities and Jan will be here in no time!

Lisa - sending good luck vibes your way, really hope it works out for you, will keep everything crossed!

Vesper - hope the hospital can give you a plan of action, I always like a plan!

Tea - sending big hugs to you, sounds like you are really going through it.

codemonkey

Forgot to say, Lisa, I hope your surrogate gets well and truly up-duffed.

pinkteapot

Gah! Tea!!! Sh*te cat parents making me angry. :mad:

tea_lover

Yes!! How can anyone do that to a tiny poorly kitten?? Makes me proper spitting mad.

tea_lover

Funny how now apparently there have been multiple vet visits, but no mention of them in the OP.