The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

codemonkey

Part_Mouse wrote: »

Code I'm not sure tbh maybe tmi but we never use contraception as I don't ov.i suspect my body's trying to get to ov but will not get there due to the pcos. I have heard your more fertile after a loss though.

nothing wrong with giving it a go.

Part_Mouse

codemonkey wrote: »

nothing wrong with giving it a go.

True,just the thought of going through the last few weeks fills me with dread.as much as I want to be pg again the bad bits have been really bad.

pinkteapot

Or Lego bricks

picklekin

Well, its CD1 so time to ring the clinic at lunch time!

How are you feeling on the DR drugs now pink?

codemonkey

oh my word, ladies, I'm so embarrassed. Thought my weightloss was a bit meteoric but was all proud of myself. Turns out that a piece of card had got wedged underneath the scales and tipped it and I've really only lost 5lbs over 2 weeks

tea_lover

Ooh exciting times pickle!

Big hugs PM. It's perfectly natural (in my uneducated opinion lol) to be scared of having to go through it all again. To be completely honest, part of the reason we won't be having IVF again is because there's no way I could cope with it going wrong again. Of course, there are lots of lovely brave ladies who face these things.

Is there any counselling available via your GP or FS? I wish I'd done this.

Sorry... all a bit rambly this morning!

ETA: ha, code! I shouldn't laugh, and I'm sorry but that has really tickled me!!

EATA: and 5lbs in 2 weeks is still loads!!

Part_Mouse

Code

Don't beat yourself up thats still a great amount of weight to lose.

Tea its awful when it doesn't work. Im so scared of having another mmc or a mc if we ever get another bfp. I thought it was bad enough geting a bfn for 7 cycles but to finally get that bfp and for things to be progressing then to end up with a mmc is heartbreaking.No counselling through my fs. I am looking at other avenues where thats concerned though.

Pickle I hope your good to go asap.

picklekin

*covered mouth to hide smile* You crack me up all the time Code!

5lbs IS still a lot you know!

picklekin

I think your very brave to think about having another go PM, but yeah, some counselling wouldn't be a bad idea.

i'm going to ask our clinic about the IVF counselling, but no doubt its to late now and we should have booked it shortly after we ourselves were born!

pinkteapot

picklekin wrote: »

Well, its CD1 so time to ring the clinic at lunch time!

How are you feeling on the DR drugs now pink?

Good days and bad days, but more good days so I'm happy.

Have now been DR-ing for 2 weeks. Our clinic make you do 3.5 weeks as standard before baseline scan! So mine's not till 15th August. Week tomorrow now I come to think of it - feels like it's been a long time coming!

DR feels really slow, and like not much is happening.

I am feeling tired. I'm sleeping longer than usual at night and still waking up feeling tired. It's not too bad though.

I've had two really bad days. All day long I felt like I could just put my head down wherever I was and fall asleep. There were also lots of tears over anything and everything on those days. But both times I felt fine again the next day.

I know everyone's different but my tip would be take it one day at a time. If it's a bad day, take it as easy as you can and just get through it - tomorrow will be better. Avoid committing to social events etc that you can't get out of at the last minute if need be. On my bad days I couldn't have faced going out. Close friends and family know what's happening so know I might bail on things.

All in all though, probably not as bad as I thought it would be.

Are you on long protocal pickle - so starting on CD21? I hadn't thought about how long this bit was. Three weeks waiting to start then a couple of weeks (or more at my clinic) on DR... It's over a month! It does drag a bit.