Male Approaching 40 still trying to find "the one"

NWOIHTS

Hermia wrote: »

I agree completely with it being a lot of cliches. I am not even sure what easy-going means actually. Some people use it to mean people who are not drama llamas, but then I have also seen it applied to people who have no ambitions or sit on the fence about everything.

NWOIHTS - when you say the finer things in life what do you mean exactly? If you mean cultural stuff surely that is a great place to start. You see some gorgeous people on their own in art galleries. If you mean fine dining a dining club might be fun. There are a couple near me and they seem to have a good mix of members.

Fine things - I mean having a nice day out or visiting or travelling in the countryside and visiting interesting places, or a nice meal in a restaurant things like that.

NWOIHTS

Cloudydaze wrote: »

Just to add, I think it's strange that you think it's strange that people have such high expectations when it comes to dating!

I'm happy with my life. Yes I'm looking for someone to share it with but I'm not settling for second best!

But then again an imperfect person, and your interpretation of imperfection, might be the best person for someone else, it depends what it is.

When I said high expectations I meant more that people on these sites seem to expect others to have no imperfections, no traits, no weak points, wow how boring would that be if we were all perfect!

To be honest the more that pass me by the more it moves me closer to the person I a match for.

Cloudydaze

NWOIHTS wrote: »

Fine things - I mean having a nice day out or visiting or travelling in the countryside and visiting interesting places, or a nice meal in a restaurant things like that.

Gosh, I like having a nice day out, visiting or travelling in the countryside and visiting interesting places and believe it or not, I LOVE a nice meal in a restaurant! Are we Soulmates?!

NWOIHTS

Well thanks for all the replies so far. I think the plan is to kind of ease of on the online dating thing, I will keep it there and still use it but not let it rule me.

I had a look at those groups at meetup, there's really nothing that stands out at me but I'll keep looking and maybe have a look more local level to see what's on about here.

There's a gazette thing that comes out every month with activities around the area (walking/litter picking/nature trails etc.), I like walking and getting out and about (the fine things in life!) so when the weather picks up probably go and join in one of those walks. I'd prefer to be out and about rather than stuck in a forced type of environment so that might well be the way forward.

paulineb_2

Well I like beer, going to the football and eating square crisps, probably why I'm still single, well its reduced alcohol beer now, just given up booze for 2014.

paulineb_2

Theres also two large west of Scotland based meet up groups that are walking based, Scottish backpackers is one of them, have been to a couple of their walks.

Theres also Glasgow parkun if running is your thing.

Netwizard

paulineb wrote: »

Well I like beer, going to the football and eating square crisps, probably why I'm still single, well its reduced alcohol beer now, just given up booze for 2014.

You sound like most guys ideal date to be fair!! :T

clearingout

I would agree with the 'meet up' suggestion. I belong to various local 'meet ups' and have made some good friends - male and female - without any pressure to fall in love, date, or anything vaguely 'romantic'. I am not personally in a place where I want to date but I have seen people get together in the last few years - some relationships have lasted, others haven't. I found my first meet up group full of a rather .....eclectic mix of people, 95% of which I wouldn't have come across in my everyday life, let alone be friends with them. Some I don't care for, others I love beyond all reason, most are good company for lots of different reasons and have become good friends. It is, in my opinion, a far better way of meeting a potential partner as there are lots of people around, it's relaxed and there is no pressure to be anything other than open to friendship.

Tiglath

My prime requirement in a guy is for me to find him attractive, and for him to be intelligent, kind and to have a job (loadsamoney is irrelevant). Other people's priorities will be different.

Bazey

become a gay, bee keeping clown.