I phoned up my boyfriend's ex-gf. She's a therapist and she told me a few things.

Toucan_Pecan

StuC75 wrote: »

Make a statement to the police that he is making threats regarding indecent pictures that he has of you..

There is no 'Should Have Been with Me'; you weren't together, and you should have been having relationships.. There is nothing wrong there. And to be trying to hold that against you now is the lowest of the low.. He sounds weak, feeble

He should just respect that the past is the past and that everyone should just move on when appropriate. what you had in the past may have been special for you at that 'moment\nostalgic' but its not worth unhappiness in the present of future..

Thank you. I almost felt that in trying to placate him I had to lie and say I regretted everything, but deep down I didn't. It's made me a nervous wreck because if I say to him I had valid reasons for leaving him he will claim it was fine to sleep with his ex and that is so painful for me.

peachyprice

Oh dear lord, what a crock of !!!!!

paulineb_2

My concern about this thread was that you posted in the first instance about being angry with him because his ex told you a few things about him and her.

Now hes in your home and you are scared of him and you dont want him there. Ask him to leave, if he wont go call the police or get some family/friends to come over and help you get rid of him.

Theres only so much people on here can do when you are in a situation where you feel you are at physical risk and if you arent trolling for goodness sake do something positive and get rid of him, tonight.

Im actually wondering what revelations are going to be made next, just get him out of your home and if you need to call the police to get him to leave, do it.

Toucan_Pecan

StuC75 wrote: »

Make a statement to the police that he is making threats regarding indecent pictures that he has of you..

There is no 'Should Have Been with Me'; you weren't together, and you should have been having relationships.. There is nothing wrong there. And to be trying to hold that against you now is the lowest of the low.. He sounds weak, feeble

He should just respect that the past is the past and that everyone should just move on when appropriate. what you had in the past may have been special for you at that 'moment\nostalgic' but its not worth unhappiness in the present of future..

He hasn't made threats though. He just refuses to delete them, which in itself makes me feel threatened because in actuality I don't know what he will do with them and to be honest I hate the idea of him having them. I don't think I can get the law involved in this one.

Toucan_Pecan

paulineb wrote: »

My concern about this thread was that you posted in the first instance about being angry with him because his ex told you a few things about him and her.

Now hes in your home and you are scared of him and you dont want him there. Ask him to leave, if he wont go call the police or get some family/friends to come over and help you get rid of him.

Theres only so much people on here can do when you are in a situation where you feel you are at physical risk and if you arent trolling for goodness sake do something positive and get rid of him, tonight.

Im actually wondering what revelations are going to be made next, just get him out of your home and if you need to call the police to get him to leave, do it.

He won't hurt me physically whilst he's here, I am experiencing stress at the thought of seeing him. It is more likely he will physically hurt me if I order him out because he will not want to pay for a hotel room.

paulineb_2

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

He won't hurt me physically whilst he's here, I am experiencing stress at the thought of seeing him. It is more likely he will physically hurt me if I order him out because he will not want to pay for a hotel room.

So what are you going to do?

StuC75

Well he's certainly said something to make you feel concerned enough.. get some friends around, and then tell him to get a Taxi booked..

the days of tending to his needs and wiping his A** are over in All Senses..

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

He hasn't made threats though. He just refuses to delete them, which in itself makes me feel threatened because in actuality I don't know what he will do with them and to be honest I hate the idea of him having them. I don't think I can get the law involved in this one.

Toucan_Pecan

paulineb wrote: »

So what are you going to do?

Sit here feeling ill no doubt. Sorry, you've been very kind replying. I am incredibly angry and feel the need to move.

Toucan_Pecan

StuC75 wrote: »

Well he's certainly said something to make you feel concerned enough.. get some friends around, and then tell him to get a Taxi booked..

the days of tending to his needs and wiping his A** are over in All Senses..

That's the joke - he isolated me from my friends... what friends?!

Valli

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

Another thing... will he have to pay for NHS treatment... he got appendicitis whilst here....?

Not your problem!