I phoned up my boyfriend's ex-gf. She's a therapist and she told me a few things.

Toucan_Pecan

StuC75 wrote: »

Trashing the harddrive will at the very least demonstrate that you are not to be messed with..

Failing that Leave him to Self Medicate with the pictures :-)..

As for the low self esteem, not knowing too much about you,, it may actually be just him that's brought you down so that you feel just a reflection of him.. Ditch him and things will improve..

Cant believe women fall for these types, just what did he bring to the relationship!.

Well I'm not very experienced relationship-wise - although that didn't stop him from trashing me for being in two short relationships between the ages of 24 and 29 (the "in between years when you should have been with me"). It just got worse and worse over time. I felt chained to him because I felt nostalgia for somewhat romantic past we had and because I slept with him.

I can't smash his hard drive. He will call the police or smash something of mine.

Toucan_Pecan

19lottie82 wrote: »

you said they are headless, so I wouldn't worry too much, unless you have any identifying tattoos!

Absolutely not.

robin_banks

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

Well I'm not very experienced relationship-wise - although that didn't stop him from trashing me for being in two short relationships between the ages of 24 and 29 (the "in between years when you should have been with me"). It just got worse and worse over time. I felt chained to him because I felt nostalgia for somewhat romantic past we had and because I slept with him.

I can't smash his hard drive. He will call the police or smash something of mine.

Aren't the pics on the email account?

Toucan_Pecan

StuC75 wrote: »

Trashing the harddrive will at the very least demonstrate that you are not to be messed with..

Failing that Leave him to Self Medicate with the pictures :-)..

As for the low self esteem, not knowing too much about you,, it may actually be just him that's brought you down so that you feel just a reflection of him.. Ditch him and things will improve..

Cant believe women fall for these types, just what did he bring to the relationship!.

I was happy and carefree when I met him again in 2012.... he claimed I didn't get how much I hurt him years ago. So basically he slept with the ex to sort some stuff out emotionally between them AND MAKE ME UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH I HURT HIM. Over time he has wrecked my sense of perspective. Even talking with his therapist ex was bizarre - she recognizes all that he is, and that she enabled him AND STILL would let him stay with her again.

thorsoak

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

I'm pretty angry with him. My anger is driving me up the wall.... I put up with !!!! for a long time including him claiming I have borderline personality disorder. He banned me from seeing a male friend and from attending meetings in case he was there. He always asked where I was going, when 'd be back... I feel absolutely used. In hospital he told me that he thinks I still owe him.

What? Are you still wiping his ar5e for him? YOU OWE HIM NOTHING ....but be a good little troll and trip trap back to your bridge ...the flood waters are subsiding now!

paulineb_2

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

I was happy and carefree when I met him again in 2012.... he claimed I didn't get how much I hurt him years ago. So basically he sleep with the ex to sort some stuff out emotionally between them AND MAKE ME UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH I HURT HIM. Over time he has wrecked my sense of perspective. Even talking with his therapist ex was bizarre - she recognizes all that he is, and that she enabled him AND STILL would let him stay with her again.

You have choices, leave. Pack up his stuff and leave it at the hospital, have some counselling.

Yes people get into emotionally abusive relationships, but they dont need to stay in them.

Get out, stay out and rebuild your life. Hes going back to the USA in 3 days anyway for goodness sake.

Toucan_Pecan

Guess what he's back home now from hospital.

I don't want to leave the room to see him. Feel pretty !!!!ing sick.

Scorpio33

Don't see what the problem is here?

He is in hospital in the UK, so is safe and has a roof over his head.

You don't want to be with him.

So drop his suitcase off at the hospital and say goodbye - and ignore all communication with him after that.

You owe him nothing - you owe yourself more.


Worried about the photots? Forget it. What is to say he hasn't already copied them elsewhere? What is to say he hasn't already sent them places. Forget the photos and take it as a lesson.

Seriously - there is no issue here. Place his stuff at the hospital and say bye.

Thats it, no more.

paulineb_2

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

Guess what he's back home now from hospital.

I don't want to leave the room to see him.

I hope you might understand why people think you are trolling.

Toucan_Pecan

paulineb wrote: »

I hope you might understand why people think you are trolling.

I do, but this is sadly the truth.