I phoned up my boyfriend's ex-gf. She's a therapist and she told me a few things.

robin_banks

Take no notice OP, I think you're made for each other.....head for Vegas baby !!!!

quidsy

I know, (s)he's just not even putting in the effort

Toucan_Pecan

fabforty wrote: »

I don't get it. Why is that a problem? As someone else suggested, unless you love the drama, what happens to him is not your problem. I don't understand what you are so angry about, you do not need to be there.

I'm pretty angry with him. My anger is driving me up the wall.... I put up with !!!! for a long time including him claiming I have borderline personality disorder. He banned me from seeing a male friend and from attending meetings in case he was there. He always asked where I was going, when 'd be back... I feel absolutely used. In hospital he told me that he thinks I still owe him.

Toucan_Pecan

paulineb wrote: »

You are staying with him because hes got some naked photos of you on his pc?

Im beginning to think this is the most bonkers thread Ive seen on here in a long time and that is saying something.

No, not staying with him. I just want him to delete them.

Toucan_Pecan

quidsy wrote: »

OK, I've wasted enough time on this troll. amusing but really not engaging enough for my time further.

Not trolling sadly.... I've been like a frog in water that's been slowly boiling. I acclimatized to a lot of horrible things.

jacques_chirac

quidsy wrote: »

I know, (s)he's just not even putting in the effort

Poo, !!!!!! and the mother in law in one thread - got to give them points for trying!

fabforty

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

I'm pretty angry with him. My anger is driving me up the wall.... I put up with !!!! for a long time including him claiming I have borderline personality disorder. He banned me from seeing a male friend and from attending meetings in case he was there. He always asked where I was going, when 'd be back... I feel absolutely used. In hospital he told me that he thinks I still owe him.

He might have a point - sorry to be blunt, but something clearly isn't right.

StuC75

simply remove harddrive from his laptop, and give him the rest of it back..

Ee theres me struggling as a single working man with own home, I guess that's the competition out there..

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

OK a few things:

- I feel guilty doing that, also I don't know if I will pack up every last piece of everything. Urrgh.
- He has some dodgy photos of me on his computer (I don't have the password to it). They are headless shots mind you, but he told me I gave them to him as a 'gift' and only recently agreed to delete them... I don't know if he will or if I should even care.

StuC75

Nobody Ever owes anyone anything in a relationship!! The disorders with him and his view that the Whole World owes him something...would deliver his suitcase to the hospital, and bid him farewell....

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

I'm pretty angry with him. My anger is driving me up the wall.... I put up with !!!! for a long time including him claiming I have borderline personality disorder. He banned me from seeing a male friend and from attending meetings in case he was there. He always asked where I was going, when 'd be back... I feel absolutely used. In hospital he told me that he thinks I still owe him.

Toucan_Pecan

StuC75 wrote: »

simply remove harddrive from his laptop, and give him the rest of it back..

Ee theres me struggling as a single working man with own home, I guess that's the competition out there..

No, that won't work. They're in his email accounts.