I phoned up my boyfriend's ex-gf. She's a therapist and she told me a few things.

Toucan_Pecan

fabforty wrote: »

He might have a point - sorry to be blunt, but something clearly isn't right.

I slept with the guy and in doing that I stupidly romanticized what we meant to one another and even when proof emerged otherwise I bought into his claims and I owed him something and that he was severely anxious... blah blah.

robin_banks

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

No, that won't work. They're in his email accounts.

How do you know this?

Just marry him....

pogofish

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

I'm pretty angry with him. My anger is driving me up the wall.... I put up with !!!! for a long time including him claiming I have borderline personality disorder. He banned me from seeing a male friend and from attending meetings in case he was there. He always asked where I was going, when 'd be back... I feel absolutely used. In hospital he told me that he thinks I still owe him.

If anything, from what you have posted here it sounds like he is displaying somewhat more potential Borderline/Cluster-B traits than you.

Get out of this now! You don't owe him, you can't fix him and you should not be enabling him, letting him control/manipulate/blackmail you or letting yourself become any kind of justification for his condition. Put that anger to good use - get distance from him!

The sooner he is out of your life the better, for both of you!

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

Oh deary me. Glad we did not have TwitBuck in my womanising days!

Toucan_Pecan

robin_banks wrote: »

How do you know this?

Just marry him....

I sent them when my self-esteem was even lower than it is now (imagine that!)

Bazey

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

I sent them when my self-esteem was even lower than it is now (imagine that!)

I am, and I'm trying to picture the photos.

I'm just going to lie down for a bit...

I think I love you.

robin_banks

Bazey wrote: »

I am, and I'm trying to picture the photos.

I'm just going to lie down for a bit...

I think I love you.

I'm turning Japanese !!

Toucan_Pecan

Bazey wrote: »

I am, and I'm trying to picture the photos.

I'm just going to lie down for a bit...

I think I love you.

Not funny at all, it's pretty humiliating.

StuC75

Trashing the harddrive will at the very least demonstrate that you are not to be messed with..

Failing that Leave him to Self Medicate with the pictures :-)..

As for the low self esteem, not knowing too much about you,, it may actually be just him that's brought you down so that you feel just a reflection of him.. Ditch him and things will improve..

Cant believe women fall for these types, just what did he bring to the relationship!.

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

No, that won't work. They're in his email accounts.

19lottie82

you said they are headless, so I wouldn't worry too much, unless you have any identifying tattoos!