I phoned up my boyfriend's ex-gf. She's a therapist and she told me a few things.

paulineb_2

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

He just messaged me online to tell me that our friendship always fails because I am unbalanced, that I need years of therapy that I have over the years tried to destroy our friendship and that if I can't see evidence of a friendship as being beneficial to me then it is further evidence to him of me being mentally unbalanced....

In a nutshell: you're mental for not doing as I say

So what? Who does he think he is? My ex used to call me mental as well, when I emailed a friend and told him what he had said about me he laughed for about half an hour. Point being, not everyone will have the same view as he has. And its very possible thats just being said to hurt you. Ignore. He has issues that hes projecting onto you, thats very clear.

Toucan_Pecan

paulineb wrote: »

So what? Who does he think he is? My ex used to call me mental as well, when I emailed a friend and told him what he had said about me he laughed for about half an hour. Point being, not everyone will have the same view as he has. And its very possible thats just being said to hurt you. Ignore. He has issues that hes projecting onto you, thats very clear.

You've been really great today. Thank you very much for your advice.

LilElvis

.... and just after you wave him off on the plane take the photocopy of his passport down to the hospital so that they can bill him for his 'vacation' there.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

OK a few things:

- I feel guilty doing that, also I don't know if I will pack up every last piece of everything. Urrgh.
- He has some dodgy photos of me on his computer (I don't have the password to it). They are headless shots mind you, but he told me I gave them to him as a 'gift' and only recently agreed to delete them... I don't know if he will or if I should even care.

If the computer is in your home, I would suggest that it has an accident involving an entire can of coke that goes completely unnoticed whilst you pack it up at the bottom of a very unpadded bag/box. The accident will happen just as the bit of the computer where the hard drive is located just happened to be sat on top of the magnet from a very large speaker.


Other than that, I'd count myself lucky that Mr Entitlement has someone else to wipe his a*se for him soon.

pimento

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

He's in the hospital recovering from an post-operative infection in a UK hospital (Will he have to pay????).

I hope so.

Toucan_Pecan

Another funny quote from him:


"Even in the hospital, I remarked that you seemed to be stifling something. It appeared to be irritation, and very often, I get the sense that you're putting on a front, as I said, playing at being normal, what you think is normal....I get the impression that you're a fiction and that you react to fictions, fictions that you yourself have created. So much seems askew, and that's frustrating."


Another: Your reality is not real, mine is, you'll be healthy when you accept my way of perceiving things.

Toucan_Pecan

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

If the computer is in your home, I would suggest that it has an accident involving an entire can of coke that goes completely unnoticed whilst you pack it up at the bottom of a very unpadded bag/box. The accident will happen just as the bit of the computer where the hard drive is located just happened to be sat on top of the magnet from a very large speaker.


Other than that, I'd count myself lucky that Mr Entitlement has someone else to wipe his a*se for him soon.

I wish.............. I stupidly emailed them to him months ago when I had even lower self-esteem.

LilElvis

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

If the computer is in your home, I would suggest that it has an accident involving an entire can of coke that goes completely unnoticed whilst you pack it up at the bottom of a very unpadded bag/box. The accident will happen just as the bit of the computer where the hard drive is located just happened to be sat on top of the magnet from a very large speaker.


Other than that, I'd count myself lucky that Mr Entitlement has someone else to wipe his a*se for him soon.

He has them on his e-mail account - so she would need to go and blow up Hotmail's servers!

Toucan_Pecan

Another copy and paste from messenger.... I had washed and rolled up all his shirts to put them in his suitcase so he could leave ASAP. No thanks for clean clothes, just:

"As I said, I really was looking forward to getting out of hospital clothes, out of these wrinkled clothes, and into my own unwrinkled shirts. And now it seems ridiculous that I have to wear wrinkled shirts for at least the next few days".

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

LilElvis wrote: »

He has them on his e-mail account - so she would need to go and blow up Hotmail's servers!

Oh well. It would guarantee he wouldn't be able to get copies from the hard drive. And there's always the possibility that he can't remember his hotmail password due to saving it on the self same computer.


Other than that, there's the police to get him forcibly removed on the grounds of being scared he's going to hurt her if she tells him to leave - or a baseball bat across the head whilst he sleeps. Of the two, the latter would probably be more satisfying, but the former more likely to result in the OP being able to have a life where she isn't regarded as property.