I phoned up my boyfriend's ex-gf. She's a therapist and she told me a few things.

LilElvis

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

Another funny quote from him:


"Even in the hospital, I remarked that you seemed to be stifling something. It appeared to be irritation, and very often, I get the sense that you're putting on a front, as I said, playing at being normal, what you think is normal....I get the impression that you're a fiction and that you react to fictions, fictions that you yourself have created. So much seems askew, and that's frustrating."


Another: Your reality is not real, mine is, you'll be healthy when you accept my way of perceiving things.

Yup. Def for real.

Sounds like the same psycho-babble I had to endure when I visited a therapist in the US. The only good thing that came out of it was that after one particularly pointless session I got caught in a roadblock because President Clinton was taking Chelsea to start her studies at Stanford - truly incredible sight with literally dozens of vehicles and an ambulance bringing up the rear.

Toucan_Pecan

LilElvis wrote: »

Yup. Def for real.

Sounds like the same psycho-babble I had to endure when I visited a therapist in the US. The only good thing that came out of it was that after one particularly pointless session I got caught in a roadblock because President Clinton was taking Chelsea to start her studies at Stanford - truly incredible sight with literally dozens of vehicles and an ambulance bringing up the rear.

He's stolen psychobabble lines and tried to add gravitas to his very simplistic accusation of me being mental.

LilElvis

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

Another copy and paste from messenger.... I had washed and rolled up all his shirts to put them in his suitcase so he could leave ASAP. No thanks for clean clothes, just:

"As I said, I really was looking forward to getting out of hospital clothes, out of these wrinkled clothes, and into my own unwrinkled shirts. And now it seems ridiculous that I have to wear wrinkled shirts for at least the next few days".

Show him where the iron is .... then clock him round the head with it.

LilElvis

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

He's stolen psychobabble lines and tried to add gravitas to his very simplistic accusation of me being mental.

well at least he learned something from his ex.

Mojisola

I hope you're not replying to his messages.

Toucan_Pecan

He's now claiming I owe him money.................. he owes me money!!! If I argue he owes me more, he claims we're equal and don't owe each other any money. Such a mind!!!!. I marched into his room angry about the money issue and he just shouted 'you're a !!!! friend!' and how I told him we were even after I helped him when he was ill (after months of him telling me I owed him!!). THEN he started crying and I left the room.

It's like some bizarre adolescent TV show I'm tuning into in my own home.

Toucan_Pecan

Mojisola wrote: »

I hope you're not replying to his messages.

We got onto talk of who owes who what.

Slowhand

Toucan_Pecan wrote: »

He's now claiming I owe him money.................. he owes me money!!! If I argue he owes me more, he claims we're equal and don't owe each other any money. Such a mind!!!!. I marched into his room angry about the money issue and he just shouted 'you're a !!!! friend!' and started crying.

Charge him for wiping his arse.

Toucan_Pecan

Slowhand wrote: »

Charge him for wiping his arse.

God, he was really ill you know? And I did it out of a sense of human morality to help someone in need... but this boring crap about me owing him. He's so whiney.

Valli

If he's been sponging off you while he's been over here then he owes you big time.

Just let him go.

Ignore him.

Mental abuse is just as corrosive as physical abuse. People who truly love and respect each other treat each other with respect. Tthey don't 'take' all the time. He sounds like one of life's takers.

Let him take off. Then you take him off all your social networking sites.

Apart from anything else not one of your posts suggests that you get any pleasure or joy out of this relationship.

Not one.