Childfree by Choice?

Takeaway_Addict

Gavin83 wrote: »

My parents will actually be the biggest issue for my not having children. They've made it very clear they want nothing more than to be grandparents and as an only child I guess that responsibility falls to me. Although I have told them in the past (although not for a few years) that I don't want children they basically brushed it off, with the usual "you'll change your mind" response.

I've a feeling that once the issue really raises it's head, once I'm married (not far off) and into my 30's it'll lead to a big argument but we'll see.

Hardly an arguement though is it

'Are you going to have kids?'
'No'
'What why no...'
'Bye'

Takeaway_Addict

Goldiegirl wrote: »

Now that's a good idea!

Then people might start to realise how rude and intrusive their questions are!

I've moved beyond the stage of people grilling me about when I'm going to have children etc. but my own person's bugbear is, when, in social situations, I've got to talk to new people. Most of them start going on about their children (or their grand children, who are always super talented and wonderful)' then I'm asked if I have children. Of course, I answer in the negative, then they look shifty and nervous, in case they've uncovered a long held disappointment and hurt.

If they can't cope with all the possible replies, why ask the question?

My real annoyance is, that I always explain that it was a personal choice etc. why should I have to justify myself, to make people feel more comfortable.

It people who blather on like this who annoy me.

I didn't ask, I don't care

Takeaway_Addict

Oh and I am childfree by choice and very happy for it

Violet8

I'm in my late twenties and my husband and I are CFBC. I am a shy introverted sort but am currently starting to seriously consider my social strategy, as I don't have any close friends and the ones I do have ALL beginning to get the Baby Madness. I know if I don't actively do something now my already tiny social circle is going to shrink further so I am giving thought as to how to get a bit closer to my child-free acquaintances. It's quite a sad situation to be in, being pretty sure you'll be forgotten but I'm being pragmatic.

Person_one

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

Hardly an arguement though is it

'Are you going to have kids?'
'No'
'What why no...'
'Bye'

Are you a man by any chance?

claire16c

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

Hardly an arguement though is it

'Are you going to have kids?'
'No'
'What why no...'
'Bye'

Yeah right!

:rotfl:

Takeaway_Addict

Person_one wrote: »

Are you a man by any chance?

lol yeah but I wouldn't stand for it personally

Takeaway_Addict

Violet8 wrote: »

I'm in my late twenties and my husband and I are CFBC. I am a shy introverted sort but am currently starting to seriously consider my social strategy, as I don't have any close friends and the ones I do have ALL beginning to get the Baby Madness. I know if I don't actively do something now my already tiny social circle is going to shrink further so I am giving thought as to how to get a bit closer to my child-free acquaintances. It's quite a sad situation to be in, being pretty sure you'll be forgotten but I'm being pragmatic.

New hobbies, new lives Go out and grab a new one!

Person_one

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

lol yeah but I wouldn't stand for it personally

The pressure and expectation isn't quite the same.

Calfuray

Is it cheeky to say I think you older CFC-ers are lucky?

I'm 23, CFC, as is my husband, who is nearly 28.
Even though my mind has been made up since I was 10, I get a lot of the 'you'll change your mind' etc. Once from somebody who I'd only just met that night!

I've asked the doctor to be sterilised, but she just laughed me off of course.