Rebuilding Trust...

Waney_B

Hi all,

Recently I had a bit of hick up and I've smashed my feelings to bits.

I work away from home, and recently I've had a bit of an issue with Mrs X. Probably not her fault...

Mrs X had a "I don't think were going to work" chat with me whilst I was away from home, stuck overseas with no way of getting back. We spoke and things seemed to settle, but she would let me know how she felt and what she wanted to do over the next few days. I thought it was going to end.

The next day, Mrs X was due to go out with her friends into the local town. We had not spoke all day, so I had sent her a few facebook chat messages. She replied to me, but it said that she was 100miles away from where we live. I asked why she was in this location, when she was supposed to be out out with her friends. She said she did not know where this place was. After that, the facebook chat location was turned off and has been off until recently.

Anyhow, the night goes on and I am now worrying. We have had that chat about us not staying together, then now Mrs X is out 100miles from home. I start to get a bit jealous and start filtering through her friends list. I find she is friends with a single man, younger than her in this town she is supposed to be staying at. She had commented on his status, and liked his posts in the past.

I look up the location, and I find that the location is a Holiday Inn hotel, in the town. Previously facebook chat locations have been good for 30-50mtrs.

Previous to this, Mrs X had been to ann summers and bought some stuff, then the bank shows multiple large amounts of fuel purchases over that weekend etc.

So now in my head, Mrs X has been to Ann Summers, then has driven to this place 100miles away, to stay in a hotel for some reason. Then the location thing is turned off...

After this.. we have a chat the next day, everything is sorted out and were back on track as I have neglected to tell her how I have felt over the past few years.

Things settled down, until recently I found she was Snap-Chatting to this guy in this town, and it opened up old wounds.

Mrs X tells me that she was at a friends house, staying overnight. I have questioned her many times, but the same answer comes out which I think she would tell me if it was true. I want to believe her, but I have that little thought in my mind now and then.

Mrs X said her friend took pictures of her on a night out, so I have asked to see these to put my mind at rest..

Mrs X swears that nothing has gone on, I want to believe her.

Can FB Chat location be wrong?

I was sure that FB Chat has said this location before, or within the area when she was clearly at home. I have searched through the history and I cant find it.

How do I move on from this? I want to believe that nothing has happened. I love her, and I have told her.

I have also said if anything had happened, we could work through it if I was told about it, but if I found out about it myself..then it would be over as that's all trust gone.


Am I losing it?

Nadstar

Not all that helpful but my current FB location on chat is where I was this time last week, well, to be exact, about 15 miles from where I was last week - Didn't even drive through that town to get there - Not been in Slough since I was maybe 10!

Waney_B

Hi

Nadstar, I was totally losing it. Things settled then its opened up again. My actions now are affecting her, and affecting us. Its annoying as we have 2 weeks good, then I had a bad thought and were back to square one. I know that its going to take time, as time is the healer.

Maybe this post is a vent, as I cant tell anyone I work with, or I am just looking for reassurance that FB chat isn't correct, maybe not 100miles correct..

Maybe I had hoped that Mrs X, with her friends photos showing them all together would sort things out. But I don't know why I cant just accept her word on it..

Jordo

Mate she bought stuff from Ann Summers that wasn't intended for you....ALARM BELLS

Waney_B

^ Not very helpful.

She said she bought some bra's as they were on offer. She always buys from there.

fluffnutter

It's not just the fb location stuff (which may or may not be accurate, who knows?). It's the whole thing. Doesn't look good...

fluffnutter

Waney_B wrote: »

^ Not very helpful.

She said she bought some bra's as they were on offer. She always buys from there.

Really? I've never met a woman who buys her everyday bobby dazzlers from a sex shop. Saucy!

Jordo

Was trying to point out what alarm bells I was hearing (there are lots) - they way you describe your situation it doesn't sound good from an outsider's pov that's all.

fluffnutter

Jordo wrote: »

Was trying to point out what alarm bells I was hearing (there are lots) - they way you describe your situation it doesn't sound good from an outsider's pov that's all.

I agree....

Waney_B

Fuel - She was supposed to be going to a friends house who she has known for years, I knew about this but it was cancelled last minute. One of the fuel entries on the account was to fill the car to go here, with the same amount 3-4 days later to head to the airport to collect a family member.

As her friend cancelled on her, she went out in town with a few college friends.

fluffnutter

So the fuel makes sense? And the Ann Summers stuff does too. So it's just the fb location stuff? If that's the case, why put all the other stuff in your post? It just confuses things.