Nervous breakdown.

Blackpool_Saver

the sooner he is out the better BEFORE these over meal chats teach him how to be entitled to a share, IMHO

trolleyrun

Aileth, I just wanted to send you a virtual hug. I hope you manage to have a good night's rest and that you get this situation sorted one way or the other. Don't forget that you deserve to be treated like a princess.

aileth

Thank you everyone. Think I've motivated something, whether its permanent or not only time will tell.

I was in the spare room browsing the thread last night and could hear him vacuuming the whole house, then cleaned the whole living room and kitchen. Even if it turns out to be temporary, it was a lovely sound to hear.

He has a day off again today and will be interesting to see what gets done, if anything.

tayforth

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Aileth: I know how attractive an escape-fantasy might be in your situation but please DO NOT under any circumstances whatsoever leave the house and go anywhere. If it comes to it, he must be the person who leaves. It's your house, it's in your name and he's never contributed a single penny towards it. Please don't risk him having a claim on it by abandoning it to him

I agree! If either of them leaves, even if only for a few days, it should be him.

Person_one wrote: »

Even the fact that he says he's going to 'help' rather than buck up his ideas and do his fair share, is telling.

Couldn't agree more.

marisco_2

Dimey wrote: »

Make sure he or his parents pay you back the money he filched from you over the secret laptop and credit card business. Add on the money he owes you from the wrong weekly allocations.

I don't see why this mans parents should pay the OP back what her husband owes her. If they bail him out then that would just be another time, when he has been enabled to sit back and not had to take responsibility for his actions. Something it would appear he doesn't need any encouragement or assistance to be able to do. He is well past the age where his mum or dad sort out his problems for him.

tayforth

aileth wrote: »

Thank you everyone. Think I've motivated something, whether its permanent or not only time will tell.

I was in the spare room browsing the thread last night and could hear him vacuuming the whole house, then cleaned the whole living room and kitchen. Even if it turns out to be temporary, it was a lovely sound to hear.

He has a day off again today and will be interesting to see what gets done, if anything.

I'm so glad to hear this - even if it's a temporary thing, it must have lifted your tired spirits to know that he was making some effort. Keep us posted about this evening, and good luck xx

Blackpool_Saver

back in the honeymoon phase, sorry OP ((hugs))

CH27

How has he been today OP?

paulineb_2

trolleyrun wrote: »

Aileth, I just wanted to send you a virtual hug. I hope you manage to have a good night's rest and that you get this situation sorted one way or the other. Don't forget that you deserve to be treated like a princess.

If I were in a relationship that was struggling like that, Id settle for being treated like an equal. Or someone doing an equal share.

Hes not going to treat her like a princess any time soon if he can hardly tie his own shoelaces without prompting which seems to be the way of it at the moment.

paulineb_2

aileth wrote: »

Thank you everyone. Think I've motivated something, whether its permanent or not only time will tell.

I was in the spare room browsing the thread last night and could hear him vacuuming the whole house, then cleaned the whole living room and kitchen. Even if it turns out to be temporary, it was a lovely sound to hear.

He has a day off again today and will be interesting to see what gets done, if anything.

Not enough. Doesnt make up for the way hes treated you and just shows he can do it, he just cant be bothered most of the time.