Nervous breakdown.

LeeLoo_2

aileth wrote: »

I know, I was just curious.


I also a particularly repulsive bossy aunt who nitpicks to hell and back (She complained about our wedding, e.g. we were on a budget so just provided a bottle of red and a bottle of white for each table during the breakfast and during the breakfast she actually came up to the top table to call us cheapskates for only providing two bottles). Then they complained that the hotel was filthy and a state to my dad, who had paid for it.

I know this is off topic but I just had to say what a nasty piece of work she is. I can bet she did not offer to make a donation into the wedding pot to bring it 'up to her standard'. If you had not invited her 'because we can't provide you with the five star experience you are used to, Aunty Ethel' she would have kicked up a fuss at not being invited.

She goes beyond bad manners. What kind of rotten person would go up to a wedding top table and say such things.

aileth

Hi all, hasn't been too bad, well, certainly not as bad as I'm crying at work at least I should say.

He has been keeping up with things, had a little bit of slack yesterday where I had to ask him to do the washing up, but that's the first time since that I've had to ask him to do anything.

This is probably going to sound really weird, but I've been meaning to buy more pads for my slendertone for months now, and it's just one expense I'm not really bothered enough about to do it. He had a day off yesterday and nipped into town and picked some up for me with some spare money he had (I had totally forgotten about them, which I thought was very thoughtful.

He seems to remember the most weird, unimportant things, and yet things which are really important totally slip his mind.

Hopefully this is a good sign of things to come... I don't know if anyone else feels the same, but whilst we've been over the rocky patch, I've been declining to see his parents all the time, I must've missed seeing them maybe 4-5 times, and I think I've dug my own grave a bit because now I keep getting texts saying how much they want to see me and miss me, but I felt super weird going and playing happy families when I knew the situation at home.

I'm going to see one tonight, and I'm absolutely bricking it because I have a feeling they'll ask me where I've been and why I haven't been visiting.

aileth

LeeLoo wrote: »

I know this is off topic but I just had to say what a nasty piece of work she is. I can bet she did not offer to make a donation into the wedding pot to bring it 'up to her standard'. If you had not invited her 'because we can't provide you with the five star experience you are used to, Aunty Ethel' she would have kicked up a fuss at not being invited.

She goes beyond bad manners. What kind of rotten person would go up to a wedding top table and say such things.

She is well-known for being full on rude. The hotel was four star, it was absolutely beautiful, lovely, and absolutely nothing wrong with it. They are not snobs used to five star Ritz luxury by any means, as they stay in a hotel maybe once every 10 years, and that is a travelodge, and they are certainly not well-to-do. She is just a nasty woman.

On the donation to the wedding pot, my recollection is that she didn't give us anything, just a card (of course I don't expect things, but it was just typical coming from her), and I can tell you now when her daughter gets married and (if) we get invited, I will do exactly the same with giving her a card, and I can bet you now 110% she will kick off big time about how we can afford more.

LeeLoo_2

tea_lover wrote: »

Diagnosing someone's husband as a psychopath based on some internet posts is hardly helpful! I'm also pretty sure it's against the forum rules... it certainly should be!

@Tea lover - I am not a psychiatrist/psychologist and even if I were would not be able to give a diagnosis to someone I have never met.

I am simply making an observation and giving an opinion, which is what I thought these forums are for.

HPoirot

Wrt the slendertone, I think that people who have been raised to be spoilt rotten always forget the boring everyday things and go for the non-essential extras. It is a nice gesture in itself, there is hope yet, but doesn't mean that he should not grown up and learn to take care of essential things.

Wrt Leeloo's post, I'm sure she is just sharing her observations an making a suggestion like we all have and there is no diagnosis going on. The same as I am sharing an observation and making a suggestion and am not diagnosing aileth's OH as a spoilt kid.

Mojisola

aileth wrote: »

He seems to remember the most weird, unimportant things, and yet things which are really important totally slip his mind.

Hopefully this is a good sign of things to come.

HPoirot wrote: »

Wrt the slendertone, I think that people who have been raised to be spoilt rotten always forget the boring everyday things and go for the non-essential extras. It is a nice gesture in itself, there is hope yet, but doesn't mean that he should not grown up and learn to take care of essential things.

I don't think it's a necessarily a good sign. As HPoirot says, it's a nice gesture but doesn't make up for forgetting the everyday things.

It could even be a cynical approach to getting you back in your place. Making a nice gesture that wasn't essential gets a more positive reaction from you than doing something boring like the washing up that needs doing every day.

I know someone who is completely manipulated like this - she just can't see that having flowers delivered to her work with a public message like "Just because I love you!" or other big gestures result in her feeling awful if she asks him to share the housework and so he sits around while she works non-stop around him.