Asking out a girl who I work with?

cod3

Beware of sexual harassment panda.

I would never date anyone from work, but best of luck OP

ipod_killed_the_musicshop

Ask her out for a drink, then on said drink ask her out. That way you haven't asked her out at work, all bases covered.

benb76

cod3 wrote: »

Beware of sexual harassment panda.

I would never date anyone from work, but best of luck OP

Sexual harassment is defined as unwanted sexual advances - either physical or verbal. Asking someone on a date is most definitely neither of these.

GenericUsername

vart400 wrote: »

Hiya! Wondering if I could get some advice? I've never asked anything like this on a forum before.

There is this new girl at work, she's been there about a month now. We both work in the same department and I have developed feelings for her. I think a couple of people have picked up on this as they smile when I mention her name. I've been thinking about the best way to ask her out for a drink or something without her feeling embarrassed. I'm quite a shy person so this sort of thing is hard for me.
I'm pretty sure she's single and I don't want to leave it too long as I know that someone else might ask her before me. I've spent the past week updating my wardrobe so I look nice and fresh, I just wish I had the confidence to go with it. :undecided

If you get a chance to be alone with her just ask her if you can buy her a drink after work (probably best to ask on a Friday - everyone's a bit happier at work on a Friday). Try not to be embarrassed or awkward. I think women like a man to have a certain amount of confidence (not arrogance). In the great scheme of things you have absolutely nothing to lose. If she says no then carry on as normal. If she says yes, then you're all good.

I'm not one for chat up lines but if you want one that isn't sleezy and puts the balance in your favour (to even just make her smile) then pick someone in the office who isn't blessed with good looks. Go up to her, point him out and quietly say "D'you see my friend over there? He wants to know will you go out with me?"

cod3

benb76 wrote: »

Sexual harassment is defined as unwanted sexual advances - either physical or verbal. Asking someone on a date is most definitely neither of these.

You would think. The ACAS website gives examples such as "touching, standing too close." Don't shoot the messenger

benb76

cod3 wrote: »

You would think. The ACAS website gives examples such as "touching, standing too close." Don't shoot the messenger

Unwanted touching or getting in someone's personal space can be uncomfortable. However, being asked out for a drink is not.

Gloomendoom

I met my wife at work and we still work together, sometimes sharing the same room. It's not at all an unusual situation where we work.

It's common enough here for a recent starter to ask if everyone here was married to one of their colleagues.

Bazey

Coppers are at it all the time.

gt568

benb76 wrote: »

Absolute rubbish; men do not friend-zone at all. Straight men fancy their female friends.

Bang on. The only reason a man is friends (or friendly) with a female is to try and get in her pants. End of. If it hasn't happened yet, sooner or later he will make a move.

I would opine that once this "move" is out of the way it is possible for a man and a woman to be friends, but it is rare.

marisco_2

Bazey wrote: »

If I really fancied someone at work and thought she was potentially the "one" I would consult a bunch of morons from the internet. They could give me exaggerated tales of where this has happened and gone horribly wrong, I'd go off the idea of asking her out and remain single and lonely in the hope I have kept the internet morons happy by taking their unsound advice.

I didn't have you down as someone who could be so easily swayed by others opinions.