Asking out a girl who I work with?

Avoriaz

vart400 wrote: »

Hiya! Wondering if I could get some advice?

Vart loudly beside her.

Girls love that sort of thing.

SailorSam

shegirl wrote: »

Agreed.And you do sound lovely!

You never tell me i'm lovely.

Bazey

O/P have you though about getting someone else to ask her out for you. Maybe someone better looking and more popular.

trollopscarletwoman

Take a chance.

The worst response you can get is no.

if you don't do that you'll always be wondering and that's worse than rejection.

if you get the no there are plenty more out there.

Dangle the wormy on the hookee and one will have a nibble!

tommix

Just tell her you'd have to invent her if she did'nt exist, and that your great great grandfather was John Logie Baird who invented the Television..Also you might ask her if she's ever considered becoming a model as she has outstanding bone structure, and the Museum where you work is looking for female subjects who resemble Cro-magnon women from the Neolithic period.:beer:

hgotsparkle

Another one here against dating people from work!

I was with my ex for a year, we met at work, albeit in different departments but everyone knew our business, if we had an argument, everyone knew why and I'd get dirty looks from those he worked with if he'd be !!!!!ing about me.
He then dumped me (in the car park of where we worked), then got back together after a week, then 3 months later I dumped him because if I was stressed about problems at work, I couldn't escape them in my free time because he knew the ins and outs of it all and his face was associated to work, for me. Once we split up, I relocated to another office as it was too awkward seeing each other every day.

pukkamum

There was a couple in our office, all was well til she came home and found him in bed with her male boss!
They all continued to have to work with each other, to say the atmosphere was frosty is an understatement!

Bazey

pukkamum wrote: »

There was a couple in our office, all was well til she came home and found him in bed with her male boss!
They all continued to have to work with each other, to say the atmosphere was frosty is an understatement!

Why was she not happy? Did he beat her to a promotion?

benb76

A very important question: have you struck up a friendship with this girl? If so, I can tell you that you've already been compartmentalised in her friend-zone and have got very little chance of any romantic involvement.

If you haven't had much interaction then you're still in with a shout. Be flirty with her when you get the chance for a day or 2 - do not drag this out - and then say 'are you free on day x evening? We should go out for a drink together'. It's that simple. If she's not single she'll let you know, and if she doesn't fancy you she'll turn you down. Either way, she'll be flattered at being asked and will have a nice feeling all day - nothing to be embarrassed about.

The only time getting turned down causes awkwardness is if you have known someone for months already and she has already friend-zoned you. Don't let that happen; act quickly and decisively. This shows confidence in a man and is attractive to women.

hazyjo

Blimey, what if you meet The One at work? Would you not date them just cos you work with them? My boss (a partner) is married to a lawyer who works here. Two people in the nearest two offices to me are dating (and have been for a while). Two in our other office are married to each other. Another partner (in the the third nearest office to me lives with (and has a baby with) a bloke who used to work here. Two others used to date (one has since left, but they were great friends after). A couple of others have had 'a bit of a thing' with someone else. Probably others I've forgotten. Only around 50 of us in each office so not like it's a big company of thousands lol.

Go for it

I'd start talking at a work function. Christmas party? The bloke I nearly got together with at work is someone I just gravitate towards at every function. We always sit together, we usually end up pretty much only talking to each other. We go out on our own for drinks still after work. Would say that nobody bats an eyelid but they do. They always raise their eyebrows or say we should be together. So what? Nowt going on (and if there was, so what!). I have a BF. We had a bit of a date and a kiss one night several years ago, but nothing since. We're still the best of friends (was a bit awkward for a while but we got over it!).

Jx