The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

tea_lover

Morning ladies. I pulled a sickie today and am now lying on the sofa watching friends. Not sure feeling fed up with life is really a valid reason for a day off but if I'd gone in I think I might have punched someone.

Part_Mouse

Tea I hope a chilled day on the sofa helps.

codemonkey

Och tea, sometimes I think you just need to take the odd "mental health" day off work if only to stop you going totally mental and beating your colleagues to death with a stapler.

Just been to the hospital for a CT scan which was a bit odd. It took less time than I thought so now I'm procrastinating because I cba with work.

Also DH's GP phoned him on Monday about his test results but he missed the call and didn't call back yesterday. I made him go in today but the Dr wasn't in and the receptionist couldn't tell us anything. Is that a bad sign?

Floaty

Not necessarily a bad sign codemonkey, just being bureaucratic I'll wager.

Cheers to duvet days tea lover, very helpful sometimes...

SewIt_2

Hi everyone, sorry I've not been on for a wee while, things just been hectic! I seem to have missed so much, apologies if i miss anyone off the list.

Codemonkey, probably just NHS bureaucracy. Boo to being stuck on waiting lists, I am too so share your frustration!

Tea Lover - enjoy the duvet day, and good luck when DR starts!

Rowingirl - great news, wishing you a happy IVF experience!

Frozenpenguin - great news re IVF! It's quite good to know you will be starting post Christmas as now you can relax and enjoy and look forward to a happy new year!

T2D - glad op went well and yeah to starting IVF.

PM - how are you holding up on the 2WW?

Floaty - no fun to scratching heads from FS. It is soooo frustrating when they can't find anything wrong, but you still can't get pregnant! Hope L&D goes well. I've not had one so can't offer any advice sorry.

danielley - if you are ovulating normally I'm surprised they gave you Clomid as the most recent NICE guidelines don't recommend it for women who are ovulating regularly. Google it and challenge your FS if its just being used to delay IVF.

Looks like things are starting to happen for lots of peeps, great stuff!

AFM - doing ok, really good friend had a baby yesterday. Lovely for them (and I'm genuinely delighted for them) but its so hard seeing what you can't have. It seems to come so easily to others. Also had a dream the other night that I was pregnant! Ha ha! Had a massive fight with DH last night and still not talking to him, waiting for him to apologise, think it might be a long wait!

Hugs ladies xx

Part_Mouse

Sewit hope your dh makes up with you soon.men are stanrange creatures at the best of times.

Well I'm 12 dpo and quite crampy on the side I ov, not sure what's normal as I never ov, tested again this am and bfn on ic.otd is 17dpo.trying not to drive myself crazy lol.

danielley

Hi all,

Tealover - I hope that you feel a little better after your couch day, Sometimes life can feel really crappy and a little tlc is what is needed.

SewIt - I hope that your OH apologises soon.

AFM the nurse from the hospital has called me back, she has spoken to my consultant who has advised to stop the Clomid. He also wants to see me in the next fortnight to discuss the results as there are some other abnormalities, so I will be getting an appointment letter sent out.

She said not to worry, but I am a right mard. A million things going through my mind, like what is this means I can't have IVF, as I will be incompatible with the drugs required for that.

To add insult to injury, I have had 2 invites to baby showers in the next month and also my cousin has rang me today to inform me his wife is 12 weeks pregnant. I am really happy for them both, they only got married 3 months ago so it's a honeymoon baby, but at the same time I am frustrated that my body isn't playing ball...

I know that I am just being a grouch as I am struggling but I can hand on heart say that with regards to the baby showers, I was anti-them even before I was TTC, I think they are an expensive waste of time and also I old fashioned in that I dont think gifts should be given until the baby has arrived safe & well.

Rant over!

Part_Mouse

Danielley hugs to you.

codemonkey

danielley wrote: »

Hi all,

Tealover - I hope that you feel a little better after your couch day, Sometimes life can feel really crappy and a little tlc is what is needed.

SewIt - I hope that your OH apologises soon.

AFM the nurse from the hospital has called me back, she has spoken to my consultant who has advised to stop the Clomid. He also wants to see me in the next fortnight to discuss the results as there are some other abnormalities, so I will be getting an appointment letter sent out.

She said not to worry, but I am a right mard. A million things going through my mind, like what is this means I can't have IVF, as I will be incompatible with the drugs required for that.

To add insult to injury, I have had 2 invites to baby showers in the next month and also my cousin has rang me today to inform me his wife is 12 weeks pregnant. I am really happy for them both, they only got married 3 months ago so it's a honeymoon baby, but at the same time I am frustrated that my body isn't playing ball...

I know that I am just being a grouch as I am struggling but I can hand on heart say that with regards to the baby showers, I was anti-them even before I was TTC, I think they are an expensive waste of time and also I old fashioned in that I dont think gifts should be given until the baby has arrived safe & well.

Rant over!

I really hope there's something that can be done for you. Huge hugs.

I seem to remember someone on here had IVF without the drugs (QQ maybe). Don't know how it works or if it'd be suitable for you. Just thought I'd mention it.

I agree about the baby showers. Hate, hate, hate them. Stupid American import. I got invited to one a couple of months ago with a gift list and nothing on it was cheap. I made up a prior engagement.

MrsDavo

Hey ladies,

tea - ditto to the duvet day! I feel just the same. It causes mayhem at my place if we call in sick so unfortunately I'm never able to - even when I don't feel like going in.

Danielley - hugs to you. Hope you don't worry too much in the next 2 weeks, easier said than done I know!

Sewit - hope dh apologises!

Everyone else who needs hugs can have one xx

AFM: blood test today, and she had to take it from my hand again ( some of them find it difficult to find a vein! ) but the last time they did that they needed to redo the test because of it clotting before it got to the hospital - that better not happen again, not as if you get 2 day 21's in your cycle is it!!!

I'm really emotional at the moment, don't know what the hell is wrong with me. Almost in tears at work again today, when nothing had actually happened!

Stupid hormonal body!!

PM how are you doing in this 2ww? I'm doing crap! Xx