The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Whattodonow

T2D, peonie - how are you getting on with pessaries? I am v windy, constipated then diarrea (sp?) and very very down. All side effects apparently. This has been the absolute worst bit for me.

Glaswejen, I'm glad you're talking to someone in work about what you're going through. It can really help you digest it all. Your other colleague will come round I'm sure. Like T2D says this ttc makes you realise there must be loads of people with things going on that aren't public knowledge.

Clever - hugs to you. I suppose the doc thought she was doing her duty telling you that, but doesn't seemto have been very sensitive about it! Sounds like a very very remote possibility from what the other girls have said. Try to keep cool until you hear what the real doctor says! X

lisawood78

All the pessaries ever do for me is make me constipated and like mentioned above I'm still too scared to 'try' too hard, even after nine tries! I've been trying to figure out what the 2ww with our surrogate will be like. The 2ww for me (as for all I'm sure) is a nightmare, 2 weeks of terror I with only the first few days of being bearable because I know nothing can be expected right at the start.
No worrying about twinges or obsessively checking for AF every few minutes (or so it feels like!) and then no sleep towards the end and the need to test early and seemingly every few hours.
I'm sure I'm going to find a whole new realm of things to fret about. Is she taking it easy, is she feeling ok, does she feel sick/tired/AF symptoms, any implantation, has she sneakily tested early, arghhhhhh!

But I won't be asking her any of these things cos again she is doing an amazingly kind generous and unselfish thing for us that I can't add to the pressure I'm sure she will already feel soo I will sit at home and cross my fingers and watch the days minutes and hours slowly tick past and watch my phone obsessively for any updates but at least I can go for a wee without being terrified!!
It's been a very Very long road to get here ( as I know it has been for all you ladies here with me) but I really hope this is the last step of the journey now, but I can't get my hopes too high as this isn't some miracle answer, we still have the same % odds for and against it working as most healthy IVF couples. Sorry ladies, that's been all me me me me, I will go away and do something useful and come back later with a more open mind

Whattodonow

Lisawood that two week wait is going to be tough. Make sure you keep yourself busy! Don't sit at home! It will feel like forever if you're clock watching... But I suspect you won't be able to help it

you know how she will tell you?

tea_lover

WTDN - withiout meaning to be too personal (ha!), are you still putting them in the same place? I was told I could use either after ET. Could always try changing, or even alternating maybe?

Not at all helpful but I found the s*dding cyclogest far tougher than the injections tbh.... you're not on your own!

time2deal

tea_lover wrote: »

Yup! Will be starting our second go at ICSI in the next few weeks (just waiting for CD1 to roll around). I reckon we'll all be on a massive roll by then. Peonie, T2D and WTDN will have had their BFPs and I will just coast along behind on the wave of their triumph :).

Sounds like you have quite a plan in place there, it really is amazing how fast things have come on in the past 30 years. I won't pretend to understand the science of it all but will have everything crossed for you x.

Gives me a shiver of stress/fear/hope when you say that.

Whattodonow wrote: »

T2D, peonie - how are you getting on with pessaries? I am v windy, constipated then diarrea (sp?) and very very down. All side effects apparently. This has been the absolute worst bit for me.

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Clever - hugs to you. I suppose the doc thought she was doing her duty telling you that, but doesn't seemto have been very sensitive about it! Sounds like a very very remote possibility from what the other girls have said. Try to keep cool until you hear what the real doctor says! X

I've been ok with side effects. Some constipation, but not too much. I actually think using the backdoor helps a bit with that. Lets not get too much into why that might be!!

I am struggling with being grumpy and a bit depressed. Hating my job, and I made angry eyes at someone who cut in on me at Pret today! I admonished myself suitably. My boobs are sore, nipples sensitive and mildly nauseous in the morning. All normal AF symptoms, but on steriods.

Clevernamehere - sorry your GP was such a numpty. I have a fibroid that always gets commented on, but they then say it's not a problem. Wait until you hear from someone with actual knowledge in the area!
And glad you are ok with me sneaking you onto the list! Let me know if you want to go on the first page too.

time2deal

lisawood78 wrote: »

All the pessaries ever do for me is make me constipated and like mentioned above I'm still too scared to 'try' too hard, even after nine tries! I've been trying to figure out what the 2ww with our surrogate will be like. The 2ww for me (as for all I'm sure) is a nightmare, 2 weeks of terror I with only the first few days of being bearable because I know nothing can be expected right at the start.
No worrying about twinges or obsessively checking for AF every few minutes (or so it feels like!) and then no sleep towards the end and the need to test early and seemingly every few hours.
I'm sure I'm going to find a whole new realm of things to fret about. Is she taking it easy, is she feeling ok, does she feel sick/tired/AF symptoms, any implantation, has she sneakily tested early, arghhhhhh!

It's going to be tough. So much of this whole process is out of our control, but for surrogacy that's even more so! It will be like waiting for a boy to call you after a date. I can already see you calling yourself to make sure the phone works.

tea_lover

time2deal wrote: »

I can already see you calling yourself to make sure the phone works.

Ha! So it's not just me that's done that then .

Whattodonow

Thanks t2d, tea. Changed to front door this morning, which is a good thing because I had an attack of the poops half hour later! Hoping it worked. I feel utterly miserable, even getting dressed is a massive effort.

Clevernamehere

Thanks ladies, your comments have helped put things in perspective. I have googled it and there are other options. I think that when she said the word "hysterectomy" I just got a big fright.

I don't have terrible symptoms. However I've been having some stomach problems and I'm a bit stomach crampy. I'm quite a scrawny person so I guess a huge fibroid takes up a lot of space.I want the thing out of me!

I do usually like my GP though. She's one of those "tell it like it is" types which I usually really appreciate however this time it might have been a little bit much.

So I guess I just wait for a referral. In the meantime, I've decided to chill out on all the ttc stuff so I am currently enjoying a fully caffinated latte and a chocolate croissant. Maybe I'll take up smoking? (kidding)

I'm really rooting for all these embies by the way, even though I don't know anything about the process. It strikes me that it's like the 2ww, only Hyper 2ww! It's nice that a few of you are in synch.

time2deal

Whattodonow wrote: »

Thanks t2d, tea. Changed to front door this morning, which is a good thing because I had an attack of the poops half hour later! Hoping it worked. I feel utterly miserable, even getting dressed is a massive effort.

Give yourself a break WTDN. You are only a few days post ET, with all the stress that contains! The weekend is nearly here so you can spend it wallowing.

My acupunturist told me to focus on keeping warm. So at home I wear lovely slippers, and comfy trackies, and I'm sleeping in soft bedsocks and with a warm water bottle to cuddle. I'm find it all a bit soothing actually. Maybe give that a try. I'm sleeping well enough, tired at night, but god the dreams are insane! I think I wake up early each morning as my brain just can't cope with any more!