The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Part_Mouse

Hi all

Sorry iv'e not been around.

Chickpea im so sorry to read your news, doesnt seem much but sending huge hugs your way.

Huge congrats Gelly.

Afm iv'e got a bad chest infection and have for the last week, seems to be getting worse. Dr can't give me anything either. Im also in the 2ww, had trigger last sat, not that hopeful tbh, we ddint get to bd dance much as dh was tired which tbh peeved me off massievly. Iv'e ben ill with this chest infection and its taken so long to get one egg im worried now we've missed it

Wonder_Woman

Glad you are feeling well on the tablets Danielley and not experiencing any side effects (although those side effects did sound quite fun )

SewIt - as our IF is due to a specific problem with DH's tubes I wonder if we would be suitable, will definitely look at website. Thank you. Shocked about the price difference! Our base cost is £3500 to include all scans, bloods, consults, collection under sedation and transfer etc, £1000 for drugs, £1000 for ICSI, £500 for culturing to blastocyst and god knows what the other £1000 is. They have the best success rates in our area though so not sure I would switch and also they are easiest to get to (not a huge deciding factor but still a ball ache what with work and all). Do you know what makes you nervous about the scratch? Are you having it under sedation? I do understand about wanting to try something different and also about wanting to go into the cycle in tip top condition. We've been eating really badly due to business/stress lately and desperate to get back on track.

Frozen Penguin - I think they mean polycystic ovaries by 'your type of ovaries' (mine are too). They respond really well to the drugs so you can take a lower dose (which is great when you are paying as the drugs cost you less )

PM - so pleased you ov'd in the end and fingers crossed for your 2ww. Hoping you feel better soon.


Sorry about the mini essay, it is so lovely to have you ladies to chat to though that really understand.

Part_Mouse

Ww interesting about pcos ovaries responding quicker as mine are the oppersite and very pcos. Each time it's taking our 6 weeks to get an egg. Got progesterone test tommorow so hopefully ov will be confirmed, just very worried we didn't bd at the right time nothing I can do now though.

codemonkey

PM, is it not taking so long because they're being very cautious with your dose. Fingers crossed for ov.

WW - if we get any sperm and then fail at the NHS ICSI, our private costs would be as much as yours, cause we've got the cost of the surgical sperm retrieval, then all the other stuff.

Got the US tomorrow so wayhey for sitting in a room of pregnant people. Should I wear a skirt in case they decide to go for dildo cam - I've been warned its a possibility. Also we've got our work free bar in the morning so when they say to drink a litre of still fluid, does wine count? :rotfl:

codemonkey

!!!!!!? Did I really just get teary at "The Little Mermaid"?

Part_Mouse

Code it is to a degree but I need a pretty high dose anyway. Both times I've needed a high dose so my ovaries haven't woken up at all.

I hope your us goes well tommorow.

Rowingirl

It does get easier WW but I also struggle with the lack of knowledge. Our review meeting didn't provide any answers about our infertility so we're still unexplained. However it did provide a way forward for our cycle which is what I hoped for. How are you feeling?

Hi PM, good luck for your progesterone test tomorrow and I hope you feel better soon.

Code, good luck tomorrow. Wine contains water so I think it counts .

T2D can you move me to the IVF/ICSI list please and update me in the first post
Rowingirl - start ICSI in late January.

Waiting for AF to start, thought it would be today but spotting has stopped (sorry TMI) and I need to pee every 15 minutes. Must stop ss. If she does show at least I drink all the Belgian beer I've ordered for Christmas .

frozenpenguin

Wonder_Woman wrote: »

Frozen Penguin - I think they mean polycystic ovaries by 'your type of ovaries' (mine are too). They respond really well to the drugs so you can take a lower dose (which is great when you are paying as the drugs cost you less )

Ahh, that does make sense Wonder_Wonder! (I feel a bit silly now, it's so obvious ) I think there was so much to take in, I just didn't put two and two together.

Hopefully a lower dose will be okay although everything still seems so daunting - it's weird, it seems great that it's so close (Feb will fly round fast I'm sure) but also the end result still seems so far far away, if get my drift? It's exciting but very strange.

Have to ring up the clinic again anyway, they gave me 10 tablets of Provera but I can't for the life of me recall whether they said to take all 10 tablets starting from Day 19 or whether to take them from Day 19 until whenever AF arrives.

I have a feeling I've be ringing up the clinic rather a lot... x

codemonkey

Had the pelvic ultrasound today. They had to use dildo cam which wasn't pleasant, but was in a very high-tech room with a big tv screen in my line of vision so I could see too. Probably brilliant if you're looking at a baby. Less so if you're looking at your ovaries. The good news is that my ovaries look ok. She said they were borderline for PCO but that my hormone profiles didn't show it, I'm probably normal. She also pointed out a large dominant follicle on my right ovary so looks like my body decided to ignore the provera and go ahead and ovulate. I suppose its good news.

But, it was the ultrasound in their reproductive centre, so everyone in the waiting room was pregnant, and they were all leaving with their scan photos and looking happy. I got some funny looks being there by myself but at least it was cold so I was wearing a big jacket and it wasn't clear that I'm not pregnant - so they were probably thinking that the father was just absent and worthless :rotfl:

When I got home, I just burst into tears because it hit home that if I'm normal then the situation with DH's sperm is real and it's just not going to happen. It was also a reminder that if I'm normal then I probably could conceive with a man who had some sperm and it's so difficult to think that if I had married someone who wasn't DH, I'd have babies but because I fell in love with DH, I may never have any.

Also, very weird knowing that I'm about to ovulate but there's no point in doing anything.

good_vibes

*hugs* code, glad scan went well.
you express so much better than I do. I have had the same thoughts as you at times if that helps.
Its still a waiting game at the moment for you, hope it moves quicker for you both soon to get the help you need
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