What to do when punishments don't work?

adouglasmhor

ValHaller wrote: »

=> ADHD => Ritalin

Is this really the way to go?

Not every GP is going to prescribe Ritalin at the first mention of behavioural problems.
Especialy if thtat's not what the parents want. But they can access other services and specialists.

adouglasmhor

ValHaller wrote: »

I am for real. But if you are for calling an ambulance to deal with this child I'll defer to you.

Personally, I think that it is a waste of resources to bring the GP to this one - much like taking him to the optician, the dentist or the fire brigade - unless other resources indicate that there is a referral the GP can make.

Funny enough the G in GP stands for general, so the GP is qualified to decide whether other resources are needed. AFAIK - you aren't. Also telling someone not to go to their GP is medical advice.

ValHaller

adouglasmhor wrote: »

Funny enough the G in GP stands for general, so the GP is qualified to decide whether other resources are needed. AFAIK - you aren't. Also telling someone not to go to their GP is medical advice.

Not that I have told anyone not to go. I have speculated on the likely outcome and suggested only going with a clear idea of what is required. As this is not a medical problem, it is no more medical advice than suggesting that someone does not go to their GP for a fault with their double glazing.

adouglasmhor

ValHaller wrote: »

Not that I have told anyone not to go. I have speculated on the likely outcome and suggested only going with a clear idea of what is required. As this is not a medical problem, it is no more medical advice than suggesting that someone does not go to their GP for a fault with their double glazing.

Again - how do you know it is not a medical problem?

afaulkner66

Thank you for your replies, I have spoken to the school and am awaiting a phone call off his teacher at lunch time to discuss this and make an appointment to see her.

This morning I have been to our local mums group and have spoken to some mums whose children have been diagnosed with various things and a lot of what they have said sounds like my son, but on the other hand he could just be acting up? I don't know. All I want is some guidance to fix this before it's too late.

samtoby

afaulkner66 wrote: »

To be honest this behavior has been going on since way before youngest was born, but it was easier to handle when he was younger, I am struggling at times now and want to nip it in the bud before he gets older still and ends up getting into serious trouble.

Why didn't you do something before - just because its easier to handle doesn't mean you ignore until it is a bigger problem - I know its easy for me to say maybe as its not my child but seems like its been left too long

Tenyearstogo

afaulkner66 wrote: »

Last time I mentioned the bed wetting to my son's Health Visitor, I was told if it doesn't stop before the age of 7 to see the GP as they do sleep/ bedwetting clinics but won't consider sending him until he is 7.

When I was school nursing a few years ago, it was always left until 9 years. Maybe it's changed. No harm in asking your GP though is there.

dll74

Speaking here about ADHD only, there are three core elements.

Broadly speaking (about my own Son) if the behaviour is related to one of the following;
Attention deficit (repeated requests/losing things/forgetting/v poor planning and organisation)
Hyperactivity (chewing/restlessness/running around inappropriately) or
Impulsiveness (running across roads/significant lack of thought and/or empathy etc.) then it's likely his ADHD.

For most other behaviour including rudeness/being untruthful/lazy it's him being a typical 13 year old boy.

afaulkner66

samtoby wrote: »

Why didn't you do something before - just because its easier to handle doesn't mean you ignore until it is a bigger problem - I know its easy for me to say maybe as its not my child but seems like its been left too long

It hasn't been left, I have been trying to deal with his behavior at home, when he was younger he behavior wasn't as extreme as it is now. It may be naive of me, but I put his behavior down to him just being a strong willed boy, until yesterday I have never had a parent come to the door, I have never been contacted by school to say anything untoward was happening. Once I have spoken to his teacher I will have a better understanding of whats going on there.

ValHaller

adouglasmhor wrote: »

Again - how do you know it is not a medical problem?

I have not ventured an opinion on this, so your question is moot.